Loss of privacy in my home--advice appreciated.?

Question

Once again, I try to support my husband in every way I can. I have reached my limit, tho, recently. He started 12 different companies and people are at our house, working at all hours. Not out of the way, mind you, right in the middle of our living space (kitchen, dining room, family room). I have always been social, but value my privacy at home. My children do their homework and we eat our meals with people basically in the same room. I never get any notice. For instance, at 5:00 tonight, I was settling in for dinner and our doorbell rang. A worker walks in to spend the next 4 or 5 hours working and brought his wife!!! I am so angry, I cant even be nice anymore. My husband is blaming me. What should I do? These people violate my privacy by learning all about how we live then talk about us to others. I am ready to shell out money for a hotel room....

Answer 1

Tough to answer this one.

You guys have more going on than a loss of privacy and lack of permission. I think it is perfectly fine to tell your husband how you feel and to discuss the problems that it is causing.

One fo the best things you can do is talk with your husband and genuinely understand WHY he is doing these things. This means asking a lot of questions without judging the answers. In order for him to listen to you he has to believe you are someone he can trust with his heart. Oddly enough, marriage does not automatically guarantee this outcome. The best thing you can do is become someone who is trustworthy. Set some healthy boundaries for yourself and communicate those to your husband re-iterating your commitment to and love of him. These are the things that change a person.

Answer 2

Your home is your sanctuary, and that of your children. If people are invading your space, it is similar to someone eating off of your plate against your will. Unfortunately the issue is not these people, but your husband. People who are entrepreneurial need to learn boundaries for their companies. If the businesses start to adversely affect his wife and kids, and they have no peace in their home, then the boundaries are not healthy and you will both need to find creative solutions. (no work after 6, making an office that can be accessed from outside, whatever). But do deal with it, this is the kind of thing that will end a marriage and alienate kids from their dad.

Answer 3

Your husband is either extremely selfish or extrememly oblivious to how he is emotionally and mentally harming you and your children. Tell him to either pick a room to be his office, or rent a space in a mini plaza somewhere. Your home is your castle, not his place of business. You deserve your privacy and should not have to entertain HIS workers or HIS guests at all hours of the day and night. He is being greedy, selfish, and extremely inconsiderate, and should be told as well.

Answer 4

Talk to your husband about setting up an office space, maybe something with its own entrance. This way his buisiness people can be in their space, and your family can be in your space. My wife and I both have home based buisinesses, but we are both careful to keep the living space and the work space as separate as possible. (OK, only one computer in the house, so it gets used by everyone for everything, but other than that...)

Answer 5

a) Shell out the money for the hotel.
b) Shell out the money for counselling - even if for yourself alone.
c) Shell out the money for an award for such a creative husband.
d) Shell out the money for the police type Crime Scene tape and barricades. Divide the house. Between public and private. $5 charge for crossing the border - after 2 notices.

Answer 6

Tell your husband that you can't take anymore and that you'll be staying at a hotel. Some hotels have ones with a kitchen in them, I love those!

Answer 7

If you have a garage, turn it into a office, kick those people out