Why Do People Use Excuses As To Why They Can't, Instead of Trying?

Question

I work for a government funded company, and it just exasperates me when people use excuses as to why they should get preferential treatment. I feel like screaming when I hear "I'm a single parent." "It's HOW long? I need it NOW!" "This is an emergency." "I just got out of an abusive relationship, so I need this."
It's not that I don't have sympathy for them. I just wish they would try playing the victime card. I, too, am a single parent, who was granted a divorce from an abusive spouse, but I'm not going around expecting the world to be handed to me on a platter.
I was raised that you work for what you get.

I just don't understand the people that will believe when society says they can't because of X reason or other. Why don't more people try to prove society wrong, and show everyone they can, BECAUSE of X reason.

Answer 1

People who come to you for help have to legitimize the need. They either cast blame or covet fear to make it seem correct in their own minds. I work with people all of the time that for one reason or other, need.
People, to include yourself, have a need to be understood and in some cases pitied.
My personal observation is that they lack faith in themselves. Society or circumstance, relationships or lack of relationship. personal problems that remove that small bit of inner faith.
Unfortunately society has this need to bandage the wounds instead of fixing the cause.
I believe that if people had faith in themselves and were helped to maintain this faith instead of being offered quick easy fixes, things would be different.
We patch single mothers with welfare programs that only patch the problems temporarily, instead of helping them remain married or deal with the issues of divorce. In instances of abuse we continue to target the abused with simple fixes that offer no long term answers.
We brand particular sections of society as the "down trodden" and offer no real help in fixing the issues.
It's easy to use a crutch when society supplies it.
A church or government agent will come to me for beef.
I don't mind donating as long as the beef reaches the needy.
The thing that I find irritating is that these people have to legitimize the request. I'm a great giver and really don't mind giving. I do however get tired of hearing that these people are starving while I know I'm just filling a preacher's freezer.
I honestly believe that those who come in need or on behalf of the needy have lost faith in themselves and can no longer deal with things. They also use fear and society's crutches because they cant handle it, alone.
If they had inner faith, they would have X reason.

Answer 2

It's always easier to place blame with someone else instead of yourself. I blame the U.S. tendency to litigate instead of admitting fault. The truth is, people would rather act like morons than admit they were wrong. Just ask the lady that sued McDonald's because she burned herself on hot coffee.

Answer 3

lazy