What I mean is, some of my former female friends have disappeared in tough times, not boyfriends, and this one has never even hinted he was going to bounce.
How do you resolve it? Time will tell, but I'm hoping to keep this at bay and not wear down my dear while Time does its thing...
2006-11-28 09:43:48 · 4 answers · asked by starryeyed 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Wow, I'm not used to asking for support. Been a little too independent. Thank for your kind and real answers so far! And to any who have not yet chimed in...:)
2006-11-28 10:33:45 · update #1
I think I will lose people sometimes, too.....and I have....but it's because they didn't understand me/and or I didn't understand them.....some people let you know they are distancing themselves from you....others just drop out of your life.....I am bipolar, so I am a little difficult at times, but I have a wonderful husband who is very understanding.....time is what we count on, to help me get over stuff that happened to me in my childhood....and it's going away....a little at a time....yes TIME will tell....keep your head up.....and if you lost a friend in tough times, hon...they weren't really a friend at all....I have found this out many times.....good luck and God bless!
2006-11-28 10:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they disappeared on you during tough times the you're better off without them...finding a true friend is difficult but sadly there is no way to resolve it because as you say only time will tell if they're a true Friend or not...i guess one way is to judge them by what you see with your own eyes...how they are with their family's in situations...but the best advice i can give you is to stop obsessing over being left by friends...i think you need to realize who you are as a person and just how strong you are alone and if something tragic were to happen that you'd be be to handle it perfectly fine on your own...obsessing over issues like this will just leave you filled with worry and will eventually drive you insane & can make you withdrawn from socializng with other people because your preoccupide with that queustion replaying in your mind...so just dont think about it if you can
2006-11-28 17:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by @ubreY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure of your beliefs, but one thing helped me. When I feel lonely, it means God wants to spend time with me. The times when people left me and I felt completely abandoned where the times when I learned the most important lessons in life. You're never truly alone anyway. There's always another person who's in your boat. It just might not be the person you expected. Hang in there.
2006-11-28 17:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Julie N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to come to understand that you can be ok if the person leaves. that is how i got over being afraid. by realizing that i could go on with my life successfully without the person.
nondependence will be the key.
2006-11-28 17:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋