she yells at us every time we're together. she makes us feel bad about our selves. she is a major control freak. she used to be our best friend, but now we just wanna get rid of her. But she wont leave! how do we make her get the hint with out her getting all pissed at us? thers this other girl at school who would be a perfect friend to set her up with. BUT SHE WONT GET THE HINT!
please help! thankyou.
2006-11-28 09:41:41 · 5 answers · asked by anonymus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she yells at us every time we're together. she makes us feel bad about our selves. she is a major control freak. she used to be our best friend, but now we just wanna get rid of her. But she wont leave! we've told her how we feel. we've told her that she hurts us but she doesnt care. "thats your problem. get over yourselves." is wat she says back. we know shes not a very good friend, and we've tried everything. we've taked nicley, we've talked firmly, we've even tried getting mad. but nothing works. how do we make her get the hint with out her getting all pissed at us? thers this other girl at school who would be a perfect friend to set her up with. BUT SHE WONT GET THE HINT!
please help! thankyou.
2006-11-28 11:37:12 · update #1
Communicate with her!
If she is supposed to be your friend then you need to tell her how you feel, it's the grown up thing to do, don't just be sneaky and ditch her. You should maybe also stop to think about how *she* feels, why is she acting this way? Ask her, maybe she is feeling left out, have you ever felt left out, it's not a nice feeling and It can make people act out and say things they don't mean.
Just take her aside on day and talk to her and ask her why she is behaving like she is. She will probably apriciate your honesty.
2006-11-28 09:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Laura W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So in other words if you were doing something that was jeopardizing someone wanting to continue being friends with you and you really cared about the friendship wouldn't you want them to tell you, not just be a passive wimp and ditch you, taking all your Friends with them to boot. That's pretty devastating. Trust me, in your life time some one somewhere will be turned off by you and question as to whether to continue being friends with you. That is just the nature of female friendships. Try and honor the word freinds and talk to her in a freindly way, if it continues and or worsens then you will know you gave it your best and "Then" maybe it is reason to go your seperate ways.
2006-11-28 10:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Buckey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a friend? I don't mean to be mean, but are you 12? Why would you not want to hurt her feelings but you want her to go away? If she's such a jerk and so mean, you should just say what you need to say. Maybe she doesn't realize that she's acting that way or maybe things are so difficult in her life the only way she feels in control is by being mean to her friends. That's not right...but maybe she needs to know how she makes you feel.
2006-11-28 09:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely at the beginning in case you hate him i do no longer see why you're calling him your buddy? many times a pal is somebody who you like. i could only be honest with him and tell him you do no longer in basic terms like the way he's been performing and you do unlike how's he's different around individuals. Say you already know he's been mendacity, and if he would not substitute then you definately do no longer desire him to hold out with you adult males anymore. i think of it is being honest in case you provide him a reason and a metamorphosis to repair it. If he refuses to alter then i could say you have each reason to drop him. i does no longer desire somebody who acts different all the time and who's a liar as a pal the two.
2016-10-13 07:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may have to get a little mad to get the point across. but if she's making you and your other friends miserable, and it sounds like she is, you need to get together and tell her how she's making the rest of you feel, and that she's going to have to go her own way from now on. here's my honest opinion, she doesn't sound like a real friend in the first place. real friends won't do the things she's doing to you guys. I know it's hard, but telling her the truth is the best thing to do, and also the best way to assure she's understanding you.
2006-11-28 09:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋