Me and my husband both are doctors! He's in a field in which the working hrs are very long say 10-12 hrs a day! & its going to stay like that for next 10 yrs. I'm on a platform where I have to make a choice between a very hectic field or a less hectic 9-5 kind of job with no emergency calls! I need advice from married people, that does it cause any problem if both the partners are doing very busy jobs? My husband is very nice n caring he says he'll never ever stand in between me and my career, but I don't want my kids to suffer later due to lack of attention from both the parents. Shall I take the less hectic field, it pays less but I like it ...or shall I worry about earning a lot? My husband does that job nicely!
2006-11-28 09:41:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
"but I don't want my kids to suffer later due to lack of attention from both the parents."
There's your answer, "doctor".
2006-11-28 09:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They also have family life & true relationship, no doubt. It is the time duration available at home when husband & wife r together that matters. If a working lady is out for work for 6 hours it is adjustible. If she is out for 10 or 12 hours it affects family greatly. If she works at home like 'online job' she is the best & will never complain u r presenting. It is not necessary for a woman to wait for husband & prepare tea etc. for him. This small thing he can do himself. Now a days most men know short cut way of cooking for survival. If husband is reasonable & God fearing he will not put wife in trouble deliberately. Only ladies bother too much about such things. Men do not talk of these things much. Best thing is to divide works at home but not very strictly. Adjustments should exist as per day to day situations. Both husband & wife must appreciate each other frequently for household management etc. Artificial egoes should vanish at home. That is the key for tension free happy family life there.
2016-05-22 23:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on when you will have kids. If you like the hectic job better, take it for awhile and once you have kids, try & make it work the best you can. If you see the potential for your family life / quality of your kids' life to suffer, then switch at that point.
2006-11-28 09:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by rgdet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl we all know that staying home with your children is the best taking care of they can get, but your career is your career don't give up on it, talk to you kids let them know that your working hours are very long (same thing goes for your husband) let them know that they are free to talk to you about anything.
put it on your scheduled to spend a few hour with them. for example every Friday you know, a family night no matter what time you guys come in you make it your point of duty to sit and talk for a few hour or so. one more thing am not married but i think when parents have big jobs the kids will grow up wanting to have big jobs also
2006-11-28 10:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put your kids first. Why do you need two doctor's salaries? I can understand families with 2 working parents when that's what you need to make ends meet, but if you're depriving kids of quality parent time just so you can have luxury... I'd rather have a mom who's around than to be rich and neglected. Ya know?
2006-11-28 10:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Firstd1mension 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only problem with taking the less demanding job is that it creates a pretty big difference between you and hubby. this could become an issue. ie he will not be available during your free time. he will not have time to do all the chores...that may fall to you...but it sounds like you are tired of the grind and want to move to the new job. good luck.
2006-11-28 09:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take the less hectic, your kids should be more important than $$$$
2006-11-28 09:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends...mostly on: how many children you have or plan to have, who is the main source of income (do you really have to devote yourself entirely to your career?), and what means more to you in life??? If you're the main source of income...let him stay home and watch the kids. If he is...let your career be important in the aspect of building your complexity as a person, but don't let it surpass your obligations as a mother and wife.
2006-11-28 09:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by pheobe920 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doctors should know that it's "my husband and I"...........and NOTHING is more important tnen your children!!
2006-11-28 09:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sara mary jane 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋