im from canada and i met a girl in the us.Shes persistantly asking me when im gonna move there hmmm.how come she rushing me its only been 4 months and she expects me to drop work friends and family.I m trying to get to know her first visiting ect.I told her that but she insists that I need to be with her so we can start our life together.Is she moving to fast or am I moving to slow
2006-11-28 09:38:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is moving waaaaay too fast!! (My own opinion, of course!)
You are going in the right direction. Distance can be a wonderful asset to building a relationship. If forces the two to go beyond that initial "lust" and "infatuation" stuff and build a truly lasting friendship as well as deep relationship. But, if one of the members is pushing for drastic change, well, I would be a little leery and wonder why?
If this is something you both want and think is going to last a lifetime, why go storming into it before you really get a chance to build that solid foundation?
But talk to her, keep building the way you are. I believe in slow and lasting rather than wham bam, and gone!
Good luck!
2006-11-28 09:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably just excited and wants to be with you, this happens when you really like someone. Yes she is moving a little fast, but its hard when the person does not live near you. Tell her to slow down, but do not make her wait more than a year before you come to some kind of decision on the matter. Try asking her what she thinks about moving to Canada, and decide who has more to lose from a move.
2006-11-28 09:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's moving too fast. If she is pushing you, you need to speak up and let her know. She can't expect you to drop your life for her after 4 months. All I can think of is she is using you or something?! You better get to know her REAL well before you go living with her. Four months isn't enough to get to know someone.
If it were me, I wouldn't do anything I wasn't comfortable with...I would tell her you need to slow things down. If she can't except that, than it isn't going to work...simple as that. Good luck.
2006-11-28 09:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is moving much to fast, and you told her right, starting a life together should be your first clue to a very clingy woman if it is like that after only a few months,if that is what you are looking for good luck.
2006-11-28 09:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by TM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds a bit obessed so if she really respects you she would wait for you after all its only been 4 months and not 4 yrs she sounds like she is rushing you and its not fair to you so tell her to slow down or your outta there !
2006-11-28 09:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's moving to fast. Take your time for all you know she could be a murderer or a gold digger or some other kind of weird freak. Just take you time, move at you pace!!!
2006-11-28 09:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh she is moving too fast. if it was me i would wait for 2 to 3 years.
2006-11-28 09:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Hally berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋