I am 15 and i am not stupid i am an honors student also i am part of the honor society at my school so please dont judge.I started going out with this guy the end of last year 21 yrs old well i met him at a frat party me and my friends snuck into.I really liked him and wanted to date an older guy to be more popular at school yes i know that sounds bad.Anyway i lied to him and told him i was 18 and a first year at another college.I ended up loosing my virginity to him about 3 months ago we are still together but last week i took 3 pregnancy tests all of them came back positive. I have not told anyone and am scared i dont know what to do?i would have to be 2 1/2 months by now.I did not mean to cause all this trouble i just wanted him to like me and i love my bf and dont want to get him in trouble?Afraid if i tell him i will be dumped.
2006-11-28 09:38:46 · 17 answers · asked by Julia E 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I wasn't 15 when I got preggo- I was 23, but had a boyfriend at the time... and I was also afraid to tell him.... only he knew right away there was something going on with me... so I did tell him, and let me just say, it took a good full day for him to get calm. He was mostly afraid financially. However, the next day, he was right by my side- he went out and bought little cute shoes for our baby, and me a Pregnancy for Dummies book lol (it was a really good book!). We ended up getting married after we had our son- it wasn't because of our baby either- it was because we truly were in love with one another. Anyways, for yourself, it could go either way, just prepare yourself. But be strong- you need to if you are going to have this baby. Get all the support you can from your family. You really really need to get prenatal care- if you don't, something terrible could go wrong with your baby - or even yourself. They need to do all kinds of testing to make sure the both of you are okay and healthy.
Take this as a lesson learned. You know you shouldn't lie, no matter what it is... no, you didn't mean to cause anything, but now you realize you CAN get pregnant by having sex. I got pregnant when I had been on the birth control pills for 5 yrs! So anything is possible! Nothing is 100% safe except for not having sex. Realize you need to not be afraid your boyfriend will dump you because of this- the baby is already made, you need to be very strong for this baby. He or she really needs you to be healthy and happy no matter what. Your boyfriend should also realize that there is a chance to get anyone pregnant by having sex- I mean he is 21.. so he should grow up and take responsibility. I hope for your sake he does, but know there is a chance he won't want to take a part in this. That's when you need to be close with your parents or other family members.
Goodluck... go to a doctor asap! There is help out there.
2006-11-28 10:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may dump you, he may not.
Either way, you will have to tell him sooner or later because it is gonna start to be noticeable.
If you really love him, you should tell him the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
You're age, your pregnant, and why you think he should still be with you.
He won't get in too much trouble, I mean, come on he is 21. I don't think his parents will be mad at him since he had no clue you were only 15, but they may be mad that you did not tell them.
If you explain how much you love him, and tell him that if he does not stay with you, he will have to live his life knowing that he is a father and that he has a family, how could he live like this?
No matter what happens, Don't abort your pregnancy. You would be killing your baby! It's your baby we are talking about here.
If your boyfriend is a good father, he will be mad, but he will at least accept the fact that he is a dad!
Good luck, sweetie, tell him the truth!
2006-11-28 09:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by baby oh's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, I don't care what some of these people on here say, but if he leaves you, you're getting your just rewards for lying to him.
You need to also consider the trouble he's going to get into for statutory rape. You are a MINOR. You are, literally, a KID. He will go to jail. If someone lied to me, and put MY future at risk, I'd dump them in a heartbeat, and then deny having ANY kind of relationship with them, friend or otherwise.
In a lot of states, doing ANYTHING regarding pregnancy cannot be done without parental consent if you're a minor. You cannot even get married to this guy if you're a minor (that's if he's willing to have anything else to do with you, at this point).
I wouldn't suggest lying, under any other circumstance, but given the situation that you have involuntarily placed him in, I would tell your parents that you were messing around with a bunch of guys your age that you didn't know, and that now, you're pregnant. If you tell them about this older guy, you're going to end up landing him in jail.
It depends on your parents, though. If they are the type of people to be able to handle that kind of truth, then perhaps you should tell them.
Either way, though, you made your bed, and now you're going to have to lie in it.
2006-11-28 09:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he dumps you than he does but you can't keep lying to him and of you really are 2 1/2 months along you need to get yourself to a doc to make sure the baby is fine. Whats done is done and regardless of what you want to do you have to tell him and your parents. I'm sure he will be mad about the age thing but the only thing that will keep things under wraps it that your 15 and he will probably be more than willing to cooperate being as you are a minor, as for your relationship well lies don't make relationships but you just need to come clean with him and your folks.
2006-11-28 09:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by mommy2B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may dump you, there is point lying. I'm 19 and pregnant and me and my partner are no longer together. You have a tough road ahead of you, and I won't judge you. If he thought you were 18 and had no reason to believe otherwise I don't think he will get in trouble. The questions you have to ask yourself is do you want to be a mother, even if it's alone, and can you be a good mother at your age.
2006-11-28 09:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Dude Is at a loss for words do exactly It in the Nicest of approaches tell Him that you Dont favor to Be In A relationship && that you Cant stay with Him Anymore you are able to tell a touch Lie && Say That Your mom and father Wont enable you to bypass out With anybody Or Somethinq round those lines
2016-10-07 22:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by coyne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM THE TRUTH....IF HE CARES ALOT ABOUT YOU, HE WILL HELP YOU OUT. RIGHT NOW YOU NEED HIM. IM IN A SIMILAR SITUATION...IM 17 AND PREGNANT TO A GUY WHO IS 23...I TOLD HIM AND EVERYTHING FELL INTO PLACE. HE SAID THAT I COULD TAKE A COUPLE YEARS OFF WHILE HE FINISHED COLLAGE AND WHEN HE WAS DONE, HE WOULD HAVE A STAYHOME JOB AND TAKE CARE OF THE BABY WHILE I GET A DEGREE AND AFTER I HAVE THE BABY(GIRL) WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRIED. TELL HIM AND EVERYTHING COULD END UP PERFECT, OR GOOD ENOUGH. IF YOU DONT TELL HIM, WHEN HE FINDS OUT FOR HIMSELF, HE WILL DUMP YOU AND WONT LISTEN TO A WORD YOU SAY.
2006-11-28 09:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by October 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's gonna dump you for being pregnant, why would you want to stay with him? He is just as responsible for this situation as you are. You need to talk to someone and figure out what you're gonna do. The longer you wait the harder it's going to be and everyone's going to find out anyway. You might as well suck it up and get it over with.
2006-11-28 09:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by so.good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety all i can say is that if u love him u have to tell him regarless if he dumps u or not because u have a child in the way u cant hide ur belly forever and that baby will need a father in his live sit down with him if its possible with ur parents to so that they know whats happening and u can feel sopported if anything happens you can have somone to be beside u throughout the way good luck
2006-11-28 09:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by ana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off take a deep breath. I know this seems like a mess your in but things can be resolved. You need to sit him down and fess up to everything. You have to decide whats best for you and your baby .... whether or not he remains in the picture. And talk to your mom so you can start getting prenantal care. And if you need someone to talk to feel free to IM me on yahoo ... my yahoo handle is forever_taken_by_papi
2006-11-28 09:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋