I have a crush on my friend, but I dont attempt to contact him or see him a lot, I just gotta keep him out of my mind cause I dont want to destroy my marriage. Is it normal?
2006-11-28 09:36:09 · 18 answers · asked by Confused kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not normal. How would you feel if your husband had a crush on some woman and said he doesn't contact or see her a lot. Keep him out of your mind by not seeing or contacting him AT ALL.
2006-11-28 09:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can definitely be "normal". In a marriage/relationship, there are certain needs that need to be met. The 10 most common needs are admiration, affection, conversation, support, commitment, financial supports, honesty, attractiveness, companionship, and sexual fulfillment. When one of these needs is not met by your significant other, you are more likely to find it elsewhere - even if you are not 'searching' for it. For instance, if your husband isn't a good communicator, but your friend is, then your friend is fulfilling this need that your husband is not.
If you want to avoid temptation, work on what is missing with your husband. That way you won't even look for need fulfillment elsewhere.
2006-11-28 09:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by LMP25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm no. it is okay to think someone is attractive but as for as crushing no. The only person you should be crushing on if you are married is your spouse. When you make the commitment for marriage you are basically saying I want to be with this one person forever and I don't want anyone else. If you don't feel that way then you shouldn't be married.
2006-11-28 09:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by EMT_B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to have a liking for someone, but not when you are married because any little thing can set you up for failure in your marriage. If you find yourself to attracted to someone other than your spouse I suggest, you make that person a thought far from your mind.
2006-11-28 09:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by TM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it will be a short-lived, intense and usually unrequited love, sexual attraction. Such crush is immature filling. Get out of it soon better fantasize about charming prince. Crushes of married women are not normal but they happen from time to time.
2006-11-28 09:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erica H is right, they are normal, just don't fall into temptation. Remeber the grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence, but when you get you realize it's the same green if not an even more worse shade.
2006-11-28 09:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if its normal or not but it's happened to me a few times (my husband isn't the only great guy in the world :-) Good call not to see him alot or contact him. From experience it is NEVER worth it to go that route. Too much pain and too many tears left behind.
2006-11-28 09:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not see something incorrect with being sexually aroused by your boss. inspite of each and every thing your now unlikely to act on it. i ask your self although, if the shoe became on the different foot. lets say your husband has possible free weigh down on his female co-worker,thinks about her each and every of the time. Ya comprehend she touches him on the shoulder or decrease back and it purely sends him to the moon, now how does that make you experience. get over that weigh down with a quickness as you're taking section in with fireplace aka your boss. placed your wedding ceremony photos on your table, as a reminder.
2016-11-29 21:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have crushes, just don't get obsessed over it.
You don't die when you get married, you know; you still have all your feelings and faculties (well, most of the time).
2006-11-28 09:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crushes are normal. The trick is not to give in to it.
2006-11-28 09:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋