Has anyone found themselves in this situation? I Need to know how to deal with it.?

Question

I really fancy someone I work with. We are good friends but I want to be more than that. She is married so I know nothing can ever happen.

What is the best way to deal with the situation? Do I just repress my feeling and be thankful to just be friends? Or would it be better to try and distance myself from them?

Its really getting me down cause I cant think of anyone else but her.

Has anyone been in this position? How did you deal with it.

Answer 1

You know you shouldn't do anything. Leave her alone and if you cant be just friends you might want to take steps to separate yourself from her.

Answer 2

I totally advise against it. Yes I've been in the situation, and I'm still in it. I worked with this person for a few months, and he continued to flirt with me, until we began dating, to something much more. I later found out that he was in the process of getting married when we started dating, and by the time I found out he was married, I was deeply in love with him. It's not a good feeling at all. It's hard being in love with someone that you can have a future with.

She's married, and you know she's married. I suggest you admire her from a distance. No one should ever want to be the cause of breaking up a home or marriage. You reap what you so.

Answer 3

If you care about this woman as opposed to just fancying her then you will not pursue her and put her happiness at risk. If you cannot stick to being just friends, then back off; but it would be a shame to lose a friendship.

Look elsewhere for a partner - clubs, courses, voluntary work outside work, or internet dating.

When you have other women in your life, you will be able to put your friendship with her in the right perspective.

Answer 4

i have been in kinda of the same simillar situation as you, but the thing is does she feel the same way as you do meaning taking your friendship futher. have you tried talking to her telling her how you feel? but i think if she is happy in her marriage and she has a family its best not break the family because if you was to put your self in her posion i dont think you would want somoeone else to come and break your relationship would you? but then if she does feel the same way as you and she is willing to take yout friendship into the next level i dont see the problem. i wish all the best i hope it works out for you.

Answer 5

Yes, the best thing to do is not to get involved.
Admire her from a distance, it may hurt you, but think of the spouse/kids involved.
It's also better not to have to face repercussions.

Answer 6

Not a good idea. It's really not worth it in the end even if something does happen.

Wait for someone else to come along...they will.

Answer 7

just be thankful that you are still friends dont tell her or it could ruin things and it would be better to have her in your life as friends rather than not have her at all.
relationships on the workplace dont work but i hope you dont get too depressed x

Answer 8

i have been in this position with my best mate who had agirlfriend, we were friends for years, the way i delt with it was to open up to him and tell him how i felt, it may not be the way for you but why get yourself down if your feelings are totally obvious for her.
the result of my situation was we ended up getting together, got engaged and had baby, through what what i call fate. i hope you come to your decision and good luck x

Answer 9

Either leave your job or grow up, the choice is yours. She is a married woman, stay well away unless you either want to embarrass yourself or ruin yours, hers and her familys lives.

Answer 10

the more u get close to her the stronger the feelin gets so i suggest u back off but it deppends on her she feels if u she likes u go for it even she is married