my mother is a church lady big time. i been with my girlfiend for 2 yrs. and they finally met, but she thinks she is just my friend. remind you she dresses like a stud. my mom asked me a yr ago if i was with girls and i denied it, i was too scared to tell her. i been with girls for 4 yrs now. and i was married. but been divorced, i been wanting to tell her, but i dont know what to say. what should i do???
2006-11-28 09:19:18 · 33 answers · asked by Lissett p 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds like your mom already knows, or at least suspects. I would recomend approaching the subject carefully. If she is a real christian, she will still accept you and love you as her daughter, and be happy for you. Just tell her that your girlfriend is more than just a friend. She will probably figure the rest out, which will leave things open for you to discuss things further.
2006-11-28 09:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And the advantage to telling her is what?
Why bother? Wait until it is necessary and just say so. Some folks make things unnecessarily hard. You've lied to her before so telling her without obvious cause is essentally doing two things: admitting that you get your sexual jollies with other women (which she won't like) and that you are a liar (which she won't like). Now if you are running off to New Jersey or whereever else the fad is flowering today in order to supposedly marry your lesbian lover, then maybe mom needs to know that there is more at play than friend and roommate. Until then, what does your mother need to know except that she is your friend and roommate?
2006-11-28 09:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
? To me it appears like she already suspects that you're a lesbian. information to inform her is do exactly it. i comprehend that sounds corny, in spite of the indisputable fact that the longer you positioned it off the harder it receives. in case you may't tell her, write her a letter. ? I informed my mom with the help of replacing my status on my myspace. this is something I wasn't even particular she ought to observe, yet she did. That were given the talk all started b/c she requested me what it meant with the help of me replacing it. once you get speaking issues get extra reachable. My mom continually suggested that she she did not care if 2 adult men or women people were mutually see you later as she did not ought to confirm it. yet once my mom were given over the initial marvel of me being a lesbian she complete heartedly regularly taking place me & my (now) fiance. She continually me that she couldn't imagine our family contributors with my fiance and is bugging us to have some grandkids for her. sturdy success! EDIT: there is not any thanks to make her have self belief you, my mom requested me a similar ingredient in our first communication... how did you comprehend this isn't a section? how did you comprehend you in simple terms have not got here upon the right guy yet? the absolutely ingredient you may do is be you and in time she'll see that this is not a section. My mom also blamed herself b/c my father abused her & i ought to had a not difficulty-free early existence. So she suggested it truly is all my fault that you grew to develop into this form. interior some months she realized the tolerance & that i became rather a similar individual.
2016-11-27 19:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asked you before, she probably already has a pretty good idea.
Just be honest with her, make sure it's just the 2 of you so that she doesn't feel you're trying to show off or anything.
You'll be fine. Just know that it may take her a little time to become really comfortable with the idea, but it sounds like she'll love you no matter what.
2006-11-28 09:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by teel2624 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Miss.lady how are you I hope good.You pray about it , will help you I fill that things happen for a reason that"s a different subject because I feel that a man should be with a woman,but miss.lady I'm not here do judge you I promise I'm here to help you with your question>there is but one judge that is god or believe in a higher person do worry and be happy knowone has the right to judge but the lord you be proud who you have become and if your not safisfed you make that chance,you pray and it will help you 'u can do it be nice about it she your mother first then your elder'pray helps I'm a crip I know,there are alot of women but very few ladies ,hope I help once down always down
2006-11-28 09:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by robert m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to get her comfortable with the idea of you being a lesbian. Let her know you're happy this way, and wouldn't be any other way. God created you to be happy and live a good life, and if you can only do that with another girl, then so be it. Let her know you respect her decision, but if you feel that strongly about it also let her know that. Love is love, and being a lesbian can't change that. God made us the way we are, and if you went against that, you'd be going against what God wants.
2006-11-28 09:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by durh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is an important part of making a relationship work. If not telling her is causing problems, like it sounds like it is, it's time to tell her. Be honest with her and hope for the best. If she reacts poorly, then she's the one that's losing. Lying to her isn't going to make you two closer either anyways.
2006-11-28 09:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her with love and kindness. She might be suprised or angry or shocked...but she is your mother. Eventually she will accept it.
It sounds cold, but her expectations of you should not supercede your own happiness.
If she truly wants you to be happy, then she will have to learn to accept you for who you are.
Besides =) She is your mother- she knows already. That is part of the job requirements for being a mom- figuring out your children.
2006-11-28 09:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by saopaco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she asked about it, it's possible that she has some idea, and is likely more open about it than some of the jerks here.
Ask her for some time when you could sit down and talk, perhaps over coffee or soemthing. Maybe at a coffee shop. Talk to her and let her know your heart.
2006-11-28 09:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to know. Just be blunt, go up to her, and tell her.Or just send her a HANDWRITTEN note or letter or a recorded tape saying "mom this might be hard for you to understand but...and just spill your guts out. This is good in that it makes you more capable of explaining yourself without interruption and it gives your mom a chance to debate this in her hand and to relax and have time to think it out before seeing you. You don't have to tell her this face to face, and truth be told, she probably already knows but is denying it to herself. I mean if she already asked you...? Either way best of luck :-)
2006-11-28 09:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋