I feel like dying after fwb breakup, in conclusion I caught feelings she didn't return them, lost my best friend cos she was in love with another guy. I thought that fwb relationships were supposed to be uncomplicated and not hurt as much as proper relationships?
2006-11-28 09:09:27 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In theory, there are supposed to be, but I honestly believe that not everyone is meant to be a FWB. Sometimes, the very attraction that makes us want to be nothing more than FWB causes us to fall in love, or develop feelings that shouldn't be there.
Sorry it didn't work out for you. I hope your broken heart heals.
2006-11-28 09:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time benefits are involved in a relationship, whether it be friendship or relationship, things get a bit complicated. Benefits for some people, is just that, benefits; but for others so many other things get involved. You've now connected with this person on a deeper level, you have created a soul tie, and that makes it hard to get over. It's not the title of the relationship that should have kept you from getting/being hurt, but the actions within the relationship. The truth is time heals all wounds.
2006-11-28 09:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by DVine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of risks, depending on the person. A lot of people think they can have sex with no emotional strings, only to find that they are becoming attached. This is a recipe for hurt if your partner doesn't share your feelings. The is also the fact that sex is a very intimate act. You are letting someone see you at one of the most vulnerable times, and if you don't share deep feelings that can deeply change the friendship for the worse or the better (I've seldom seen for the better, but I have seen it). You are also adding another "notch" to your bed post. This may or may not matter to you, but some people really frown upon having "too many" partners. Benefits: You are getting an urge satisfied, it validates the fact that you are attractive, it can feel like revenge against someone who hurt you.
2016-05-22 23:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason it hurts is because your friendship is over as well as the benefits part of the relationship. That's why most people will not complicate a friendship with sex. It's almost impossible to mix the two, someone always gets hurt because one of them isn't ready or doesn't want it to end. Once you take a friendship to the next level (the benefits) the relationship takes on a different meaning. I think when both parties agree to add the benefits to their friendship they think everything can and will go back to what it used to be, just a plain friendship but it takes a very mature couple to make this work.
2006-11-28 09:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There really is no such thing as fwb. It's just an easy way of one person saying that 'ya I'll sleep with you until something better comes along". You change the dynamic as soon as you have sex. You can no longer keep your emotions out of it unless you're experienced emotionally enough...like in your late 30's or 40's. So use this as a lesson learned and don't do it again, someone always gets hurt.
2006-11-28 09:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FWB relationships only work if you are very honest and do not get attached. You got attached and she did not so you got hurt.
FWB is not for everyone and even then not for two people that could do it with two other people. If you want FWB relationships you have to be able to know that the sex is a relief not an attachment.
2006-11-28 09:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FWB never ever work! You cant have two people in a sexual relationship for too long without one starting to develop feelings. I can't think of a single person who ever had a FWB and had it not end in tragedy for one or the other.
2006-11-28 09:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bill R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy.. If anything, friends with benefit type relationship never works. One person gets attatched while the other doesn't return their feelings, and it can completely fudge up any type of friendship you once shared. Hopefully you guys are close enough to get over this, and you can continue to be friends even though she is with someone else. I know it may be tough now, and you'll never believe it.. But you are going to meet someone. Someone your meant to be with, and someone who will return the same feelings for you... I wish you the best.
2006-11-28 09:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is never a good idea. Someone usually wants something more, and people get hurt. Physical intimacy can lead to emotional intimacy, whether you want it to or not.
I've lost friends without benefits because they wanted more and I'm not available to them. Relationships of any kind are complicated.
Best of luck in finding someone who can meet your emotional and physical needs. It will be more fulfilling to you.
2006-11-28 09:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But the crucial thing you left out is that your not supposed to fall in love or have those kinds of feeling for the friends with benefits.
2006-11-28 09:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋