okay well, my love of 6 years (since i was 14) has turned into a heroin addict and a junky, hes done the worst he could and has dragged me through hell only to dump me.
i relize hes not the same person he was, or is he?
i dont love this person, but i love him before it all (the drugs).
was this really love?
2006-11-28 09:05:25 · 12 answers · asked by Meeowf 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
* i meant crack head and junky
and bythe way im not on drugs
2006-11-28 09:10:19 · update #1
im not with him, he dropped me to the curb (literally once again) and a relationship is the last thing on my mind. i just care for him. and he tells people he loves me, but hes happy with whathes doing. he doesnt seem care about me anymore, doesnt call or care if im on the street nothing.
2006-11-28 09:23:17 · update #2
Yes it is but---remember fondly who he was and move on. You can be there as a friend but he will try and drag you farther into his hell. An intervention might work but only if he admits to a problem.
If you have difficulty moving on try contacting narc anon or even al anon for assistance and remember his difficulties are not yours.
It is ok to tell him you will always love him but not what he has become.
2006-11-28 09:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by lexiwords 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm I do think his mind has changed, but it could be his heart hasn't. I find it harsh to just say he is changed and will never be the same again.
It depends much on how much he wants to change. If he's still hooked with hero, then it can be a tricky thing. Have him realize how destructive that is to his health and your relationship. Do you still love him? How is he to you, do you think he still loves you?
Do you feel he could change and be the same again? or have you lost hope?
Just one thing, never judge him. He is in a very destructive phase and most probable he wont notice. If you feel he doesn't love you
step aside.. if you love him and have hope still.. stay.
I mean follow your heart, not what other people say. What do you want?
I wont go so far to say he is never gonna be the same, no one can say that. I mean NO ONE.... only he knows inside of him.
So don't really trust that "I am telling you this and this you must do!" nah.. follow your heart, make a choice, and then stick to it.
2006-11-28 17:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hugo B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drugs can certainly destroy a relationship. I know first-hand, having ended an engagement with a drug addict. The drugs definitely made him a different person.
It took about 5 years for both of us to heal, but in the end, after he cleaned up and we were able to forgive each other for everything that happened, we are now able to be friends. He's not the same guy I loved, but I'm glad that we're still able to connect.
2006-11-28 17:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Morgan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People evolve throughout life. You'll get older and some of your high school friends will change and you will eventually not talk anymore. The same has happened to you bf. He changed and decided on making new choices in his life. He is far down a different road than the original guy. That is the direction, he is going. Sometimes, you just have to cherish the good times and accept the expiration date.
2006-11-28 17:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs change a person.
My son was such a cool kid until he started to drink and drug.
His gf stuck with him over the years.
He used and abused the whole family.
He stole and lied.
He died 4 years ago at age 21 I figure I really lost him when he was 13.
You can still love him, but you can't be with him.
Try going to a group called Alanon, it saved my life.
There is a book called Courage to Change.
You can't change the guy you love. And your love is real. But, you can't be with him even if the love between the two of you is real. His drug use will always come first.
He needs rehap.
2006-11-28 20:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once someone sticks a needle in their arm to catch a buzz, they cease to be the person they were before...their whole way of thinking changes...maybe not at first, but as time goes by, chasing that buzz becomes their sole obsession. I lost my best friend of 20 years that way. GET OUT!!!
2006-11-28 17:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mud Bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you loved him. drugs change a person, maybe forever. i had a friend who turned into a heroin addict and the only choice i had was to get her to a rehab facility. it's been many many years since then, but we both know it was the only way. we have remained friends for over 20 years, and the pain at the time still seems like yesterday for both of us. try not to give up on your love, do everything you can to get him help, if that fails, you may have to wait for him to help himself. good luck, you're gonna need it.....please please, do not let yourself get wrapped up in his drug scene. do yourself a favor and stay away from drugs.
2006-11-28 17:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little light found a crack in your sunglasses and yours is starting to ask questions. The boyfriend’s wrap around glasses are so dark, he doesn’t see the world. Neither of you have been touched by love.
2006-11-28 20:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You loved that individual BEFORE he altered his mind with all those chemicals. Yes, that really was love.
But, no, even if he goes through rehab, that person is changed forever.
2006-11-28 17:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ambassador Z 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are better of without him..once a junkie always a junkie
2006-11-28 17:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋