could someone pls educate me on why there is a high divorce rate in marriages?

Question

could it be that our values are wrong?

could it be that we do not look before we leap into marriages?

could it be that we marry with wrong expectations?

Answer 1

its just all about S**, to much adultery, no morals in that country, guys and girls get used to having S** with different partners, so by the time they get married they get stuck with same person for so long, then they start thinking about their old expierences and think of how exciting it was and thats how people get weak, and commit adultry, and mess around, the largest percentage is because of cheating and commiting adultery. so my opinion people in america they need to teach their kids abstinance until they get married this way they respect their partner more through their marriage they say the girl never gets her first man, so imagine if he was her husband she will never think of somebody else. we need to stop advertising S** because the more you talk about the subject the more people think its ok to do it, even if they dont know about it, we bring their attention to it, and they want to do it.

Answer 2

I think it's more of the latter two...a lot of people marry for the wrong reasons or without really knowing enough about the person they are marrying...some would rather settle than be alone, so get involved and then marry (as the next logical step)...

Expectations are another issue...although we should have few expectations re: other people, a lot of people nearly base their relationship on the expectations they have...when those are not met, they feel cheated and disillusioned...

We live in a disposable society, and relationships have, unfortunately, fallen into that category too...jump in, have fun, jump out when it gets tough or tense...throw this one away if you see one pass by that looks better or might have more of whatever it is that appeals to you...

There's nothing wrong with divorce...there's no reason we should feel a marriage should have to last until death (in spite of the antiquated verbage in traditional vows), but marriage should be taken more seriously and not entered into lightly...too much is involved...

Answer 3

Marriage has a back door that it didn't have when my father was married, called divorce.

People didn't really get divorced much before the early seventies. It just wasn't part of our culture - you made a commitment - which meant something back then - and you're in it for the long haul. When things got tough for my parents, my dad didn't just abandon the marriage - you just didn't do that.

But now, with divorce being so widely accepted, people go into marriage thinking - "well, if it doesn't work out..." - with that thinking it's no wonder that something like a third of marriages end after 6 years.

I think the "sanctity" of marriage is completely gone, and it isn't the fault of gay people.

FP

Answer 4

these are the factor which predict the divorce before couple marries.
1. Dissimilarity of interest, religion, habits.
2. Short acquaintanceship.
3. Premarital sex (especially a lot of experience with many different partners).
4. Premarital pregnancy.
5. Cohabitation.
6. Poor communication and conflict-resolution skills.

Context
1. Younger age.
2. Unhealthy family-of-origin experiences.
3. Parental divorce or chronic marital conflict.
4. Parental or friends' disapproval.
5. Pressure to marry.
6. Little education or career preparation.

Marriages with such circumstances are doomed to failure. This is why an education is so important

Answer 5

All Of The Above.

People Chose Not To Work On Marriages Like They Used To.

Its So Easily Excepted, Almost Expected, To Be Divorced Nowadays.

Answer 6

Kids.

Noone wants to admit that children are the biggest stress on a marriage.

Kids bring many problems including financial ones.

Most people just have kids because either they are told how much fun it is. (IT'S NOT REALLY) or by inlaws with things like when are you going to give me grand kids.


Or just because they don't realize they have a choice not to have kids.

If people waited and were a couple of a good amount of time before having kids and becomeing a family maybe things weould be different.

Too many couples go from being single to marriage and right away have kids. How can the couple learn about each other and what it means to be married if they immediately have kids.

Trust me kids are the biggest reason.

Answer 7

Times have changed... Back in the old days it was all but written in stone that no matter what you stay with your spouses. Even if they are beating the crap out of you every night... Things are different now. If you are in a bad or unhappy marriage than you should get out. People have options these days and most people don't frown on you for it. I personally do not believe you should stay in an unhappy marriage for the kids sake. I think the kids would be happy in an environment with no arguing and fighting and most of all no love. If people stay together for the kids sake and they don't love each other and show love for each other than what is it teaching our kids. People have options these days. I believe in the right situations they should be used.

Answer 8

It depends which demographic area you are referring to? For instance,the midwest has a lower rate of divorce compared to the west-coast.The media, the image people want to uphold here on the westcoast, materialism and vanity are valued more than values.Everyone seems to want to trade-up instead of looking at the reasons why you have an issue in the marriage leading to divorce.Also I am of the opinion that people marry for different reasons other than love.It could be financial, not wanting to be alone, etc...Know thyself before making the commitment.

Answer 9

I took fairly some psychology classes and by no ability heard of this. those who have huge divorce costs are those contained in the age communities 17-25 years of age( i imagine it became like 80% divorce price in the 5 12 months mark), those who've been divorced better than two times and those who father and mother divorced (no longer that much better than something else of the inhabitants although- purely better possibility) and ultimately those who've lived mutually previously marriage (again possibility- they might have distinct expectancies from marriage, that categorical factors will contained in the courting receives extra useful) If the divorce are indeeds better contained in the "Bible belt" , perchance because the inhabitants receives married better than something else and the actual incontrovertible actuality that they get married youthful. And which will be suggested about any non secular/non religiuos communities. in case you do not see that in different "non secular international places" , the guidelines for divorce are a lot confusing to acquire and some international places do not enable women to ask for one (also women don't have the finacial freedom to finish that, family contributors will disown them and so on...) I stay in an really liberal province in Canada, hardly the Bible Belt of the rustic, and the stats educate that we've the optimal price of divorce. specifically because divorce is extra uncomplicated to get and that maximum folk believe that divorce is okay if a pair is gloomy. analyze shows that era X and Y and performance better criteria of marriage (unrealistic ones) and supplies you extra uncomplicated than previous generations. there is such fairly some factors contained in the upward thrust in divorce (although the costs have stabilized), won't be able to easily won't be able to pin on one aspect :)

Answer 10

Yes to all of those. And a lot of other reasons. People marry without really knowing the other person. Sometimes people change over time. I think marriage is difficult, but that's just my own opinion.