night club behavior?

Question

i went to a night club for the first time a bit ago, and i (normally outgoing) was shy to just approach a girl ive never met or talked to and just start freak dancing with her... and while dancing is it appropriate to feel her up or what? i just need some explaining on the basics of what to do at a club

Answer 1

It's inappropriate to just walk up to a girl and start dry-humping her like you're a dog in heat. But since the noise level in most clubs makes conversation nearly impossible, it is okay to invite her to dance using a minimum of words.

First, try to make eye contact and smile.

If she smiles back, go up to her and dance next to her (this gives her a chance to check you out, and either move closer or move away depending on her level of availability and interest).

When the noise level dips, lean in and say in her ear, "Hi, my name's John, wanna dance with me?" A cheesy compliment at this point is also okay, but don't be too vulgar or over-the-top.

If she nods or says yes, move in so there is less a foot between you. Take your cues from her about how close to move in. Consider closing the gap in stages, about once or twice per song. Eventually, if she lets you, you'll be locked in an embrace, swaying and grooving on the dance floor. Do NOT put your hands directly on her breasts or butt - you may slide your hands along the side of her body near these areas, possibly just brushing them, but this is pretty advanced and will not be welcomed by every girl, you'll just have to use your own judgement.

If she gets tired, ask if she wants to take a break and get some air on the patio, or if you can buy her a drink. Then you can talk with her and get to know each other.

Remember: always be confident, respectful, and smile!
good luck!

Answer 2

Your goal in going to a club is to get laid. Dancing is a distraction from that goal. Although, occasionally, a girl will allow you to feel her up, this makes it less likely, not more likely, that she will go home with you, unless something is really, REALLY wrong with the girl (the type of thing that results in you testing positive for AIDS). Some guys work the drunken loser cleanup crew this way by staying until 2 am or later and doing this with this type of girl but it is not exactly something good.

What you want to do in a club, instead, is approach and talk to women. The best way to do this is to be upfront and honest with your intentions. The type of man who women universally want: know what they want, go after it, and (most important of all) don't care what anyone thinks about that, including her. When you do an approach, you must approach from the front, catch her eye and make it obvious you are approaching her. You must not look at other people. The first words out of your mouth should clearly articulate what you want as to the nature of your interaction with her. It must not matter one way or the other if she likes you. If she doesn't like you, it doesn't matter and says nothing about you. Same, if she does. Hi. I think you are very attractive so I thought I would come over and introduce myself or some less formal variant is perfectly OK. The point here is that you are clearly approaching her because you like her as a woman and want things to go somewhere with regard to that. That's the most important thing.

Answer 3

Pretty long run-on sentence. I'll try to answer what I think you're asking. If you are not comfortable going anywhere, don't go. Yes, to go to a lot of places it is wise to take friend(s). Trouble when people have been drinking is always possible. If you are female, this is especially true. Be careful. Again, if this is not your thing, don't let your friends try to talk you into going. If it isn't for you and you hold fast to your beliefs. People will respect that. If they don't, they have some major growing up to do.Besides, only at the zoo do you pay to look at living things. Go to the beach. The girls are beautiful, relaxed and you stand a chance of a real relationship. Strippers have a difficult time connecting with people, especially while working. You can do better.

Answer 4

Hmm.
Feeling someone up while you're dancing is acceptable in most cultures or countries. Watch other people and how they dance for a while first. Of course, if you reach out to her in that way, and you can feel she doesn't want to, then don't. Just respect her space.
It depends on the person too.

Answer 5

NO it is not appropriate to feel up on a girl while you are dancing with her.

You might be able to get away with it some times but most likely you be punched, yelled at or something of that nature.

Answer 6

freak dancing stops after highschool " or after high school mentality"

if you see a lady dance near her " not with her" in front of her so she can see your moves make eye contact say hi. when done offer to bye her a drink.

if she invites you for more dancing freaking may be a option but let her tell you when and if it is time . '


dont feel up girl on dance floors it makes them look trashy and makes you look desperate " or lacking respect for woman"

tons of time for grouping if she take syou home

Answer 7

have a drink or two for some dutch courage, go up to a girl and start some dancing, just look around and see what everyone else is doing and follow, if she smiles and comes in close start some grinding..then its up to you.

Answer 8

You are going to take advise from a stranger? Each woman is different and should be treated based on who she is. If a woman asks you to "feel her up" then by all means. Otherwise, be prepared for rejection.

Answer 9

I wouldnt "feel her up" right away. Just see if shes goin for it. Sometimes she may guide your hands if she wants to be felt up. And always buy her a drink if you have been humping her leg for more than a song, it is only common courtesy.

Answer 10

Man, just try not to take it to far. Make sure she is comfortable without asking. You need to know when its ok and when its not.. Like if she moves your hand away.. That means RED LIGHT, but if she feels you after maybe its ok. Always know when its ok before proceeding..