think this is too much to even tackle..should i just be a friend that listens and gives no advice?
2006-11-28 08:49:35 · 26 answers · asked by truthgrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you should offer advice when you are asked! But you should never give the same advice twice or listen to the same sad tale of woe more than once. You need to figure out whether your friends with someone who wants to fix her situation, or just enjoys complaining about it to others and ruining their day. Never be friends with a person who expects you to listen to the same rant day in and day out. You will only come away each time exhausted emotionaly.
2006-11-28 08:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend that listens and never gives advice or comments when needed is not a friend. It's OK to listen when you're friend needs to vent. But if there is an immediate concern about your friends well being, such as bad choices or paths she's taking, a friend would speak up. Try having a heart to heart with her. Let her know you care, and are concerned. She will probably receive that better than being bombarded with criticism.
There may be issue's in her life that causes her to seek comfort in the decisions that she makes in relationships. One thing you don't want to do is judge her. One person can't judge another. We've all make bad choices at one time or another.
2006-11-28 09:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by DVine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal: She has gotten herself into this situation herself. There is nothing you can do to help her at this point. SHE has to live with her choices whether they were good or bad just like the rest of us. It is a shame that 4 defenseless children who did not ask to be brought into this world have to pay for HER mistakes. The best thing she can do is to to keep her legs together, get a job, and support those kids.
2006-11-28 08:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant do much, just listen and give some advice. She did that to herself, just be a good friend and mostly listen.
2006-11-28 08:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is honestly something that is really hard. But we can't give you advise to tell your friend. Advice is something that you have to come up with. It could just be that she wants to vent!!! Has she asked you for your opinion/advice. You don't want to give some un-welcome advice, that's one of the worst things you could do!!!
2006-11-28 08:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your place. You are either going to be a friend and accept her the way she is or not be her friend at all. You cannot be a friend with someone expecting them to change. That is not the way to have a healthy good relationship.
2006-11-28 08:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you tell her to start considering birth control. I don't mean for this to sound mean, but it seems obvious from the limited information that you've told me, that your friend is a bit promiscuous and lacks personal discipline.
2006-11-28 08:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by godofsparta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she not getting help from the daddies?Sure,,you can give advice as a friend,,just be nice.
2006-11-28 08:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be her friend and be there for her - unless she ask for advice it is probably best not to give any.
2006-11-28 08:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can help all you want but dont get guilt tripped into helping her. dont let her take advantage when you help her and get stuck babysitting all the time. advise her not to have anymore kids until shes ready and can take care of them. where are the dads?
2006-11-28 08:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋