on saturday me and my bf went out and weve been having many problems were we break up make up for a while after almost three years together i love him soo much but he upset me made me cry and took me home the whole way home he didnt say a word meanwhile im hysterically crying isnt a man that "loves" his woman supposed to show that he cares i mean something? he didnt contact me til monday which is 2 days later he texted me i apologize i over reacted im sorry. please give your opinions on my situation i love him with all my heart but as much as he says he cares and loves me he doesnt show it thru his actions and u know how they say actions speak louder then words
2006-11-28 08:46:25 · 12 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes while fighting men get so upset that they just don't know what to say or they just can't say anything. I'm sure that it probably hurts him to see you cry like but while he's upset there isn't much that he can do about it. Tell him how you feel and tell him exactly what you need from him for the next time that you cry like that. While you are upset and crying, tell him right then as well, that you need him to hold you and make you feel better and if he listens then he really cares but if he is upset at the time, don't expect it to come right away. Also men aren't used to crying like that themselves so they don't know what it feels like and they don't know what you need. They basically want the crying to stop and sometimes guys think that if they say anything or do anything that it might make it worse so communication is very important at that point. Good luck, hope he listens.
2006-11-28 08:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, let him know that you needed to be comforted or at least that the issue shouldnt have waited and been put off. Be open and honest about how you feel, go from there. But at the same time if it was an argument the two of you had, or somthing he said that upset you, maybe he needed time to get himself together, but still there should have been some communication!
Good Luck
2006-11-28 08:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 07:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have been together 3 yrs so I'm sure he has seen you cry many times so its nothing new. And he probably felt he was in the right that night and didn't care about how upset you were.
2006-11-28 08:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If every woman based their relationships on the action of a man, there would be no relationships. Men are taught by society not to show emotion or concern.
2006-11-28 08:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was pretty cold to watch you cry then leave and text you to apologize. At least he should have called with an apology and to see how you were. I don't think you're being treated very well. Think about this relationship and what you are getting out of it. Is it worth it?
2006-11-28 10:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i once had this bf that would cry. at first i would always feel sorry for him and give in. who wants to see a grown man cry? but after he did it all the time i had no remorse. i felt like he would cry and overreact on purpose. do you cry often? maybe he felt like you making a bigger deal out of it. I'm pretty sure he doesn't WANT to see you cry but maybe he's over the whole you crying thing. and you have to realize that most guys aren't as sensitive as females.
2006-11-28 08:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ango 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know that it upset you. He should have showed some caring and concern, you have been together for too long. Let him know that you are tired of all the highschool games and demand some respect from him. Don't let him walk all over you. You are too good for that.
2006-11-28 08:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NoOoOo,this is not normal,this guy just don't care anymore about you and your emotions,you should know by now for what he did...Dump him and maybe he will show his emotions and you just don't give a **** about it
2006-11-28 08:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he just didn't want to talk to you! My Mom used to do that to me, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you! If it becomes a regular habit though, try talking to him about it. It could just be that it's time for you two to move on! It's sad, but it will happen someday!
2006-11-28 08:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋