its ok right not to get a ring? i dont want to rush things
2006-11-28 08:38:48 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the child is 6 months
2006-11-28 08:45:47 · update #1
perfectly normal these days. I'm together 5 years and no ring.
2006-11-28 08:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Three years and you are worried about rushing things. Let me be honest with you, he's not marrying you because he has everything without the ring. Let's break it down, he has you, a child and all the benefits of marriage with the legal commitment. Why in the world would he want to get married when he has everything right now. Get ring, married, then baby that's the way it is suppose to go. So now all you can do is talk to him about marrying and hope that one day he will.....and just maybe he will 20 yrs from and 4 babies later. If he's not ready to buy the cow, stop giving him the milk for free.
2006-11-28 08:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone just because you have a child together isn't always the best thing to do. In most cases, it doesn't do anything except cause more trouble. Soon, you might start to develop feelings of resent and may not be able to trust your mate. I don't understand why people are having children but are unsure of wanting to be committed in a marriage. If you didn't want to rush things, you should have kept your pants on. You've already rushed things by having a baby. You are now committed for the rest of you life.
2006-11-28 08:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Summer Breeze 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you don't want to rush things? Is he the type of man to leave at first sign of committment? Haven't you both committed to eachother already by having a child together?
Read some of these articles and see what you think. This guy is yours...but you want him to continue to be yours right? You need to get to work. Check out the love lectures website first and take a couple of quizzes, read the articles and then hit a book store. Get some damage control and get on your game face. Because baby, it's time to go for the GOLD!
Google how to get a man to commit ..you'll see multiple websites.
God's blessings to you and yours!
2006-11-28 08:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Leash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my guy for 6 years and we have a little girl who is now 5. And I wanted a ring for the longest time, I figured out that when I just stopped EXPECTING it , I got a ring for Xmas 2 years ago. He owes you nothing but love and support for you and your child. You are probably overwhelming him. Your can keep on him but do you want a ring when the time is right or do you want a ring because you told him too. Give him time. My sister and her Huston where together for 5 years be for he popped the question. All I can say is give him time. If you are still at this place in 3 more years then worry.
2006-11-28 08:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Christina Leah 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you have been with this person for three years and have had a kid you should have married him three years ago and then had a kid. Don't think that the child will make this person faithful to you. Many people don't get married because they can walk away at any time. You made a mistake and you need to fix it by marrying This person. If you don't it will only cause problems down the road. This could be used as a excuse for infedility. God made marriage to bond a man and women for life. He intended it to come before moving in together and sleeping with this person. If you don't fix this now it will cause you problems. I say this out of concern not arrogance. Please make this right and if not for you for your child. The child would be a huge victim in this situation and would be hurt so, so, so deeply.
In Christ,
AJ
2006-11-28 08:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that marriage is important to you, sit down with him and discuss your feelings. Let him know that you would feel more valued and secure if you were married, that you want to have his name and be a family with he and your baby, and that you love him very much and want to spend your life as his wife. If he just doesn't want to marry, and likes things the way they are, then it is up to you to decide if that is okay with you. Since you share a child, it would be best if you are together.
If you are together in every other sense of the word, it shouldn't be a huge different world for him to be afraid of. If you feel he is just afraid and needs a little nudge, propose to him. You know in your heart if you and he are on the same page.
No matter what, congratulations on your baby and your new family. I hope you find happiness with or without the ring.
2006-11-28 09:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 years, No ring why not?
Do you want to get Married to Him and Does he want to get Married to you if so what is the hold up. Three year is longer than some marriages last so just do you I guess but a Man will do everything right when he is ready including the ring.
2006-11-28 08:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by ~InEvItAbLe~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are giving Him His CAKE And ICE CREAM free why you think He is going to marry you.I don't want to rush things looks like you have went beyond rushing you have His child.Set Him down and ask Him if He loves you enough to marry you .And ask Him why He hasn't What are you waiting own....If you cant talk to Him about everything then you don't need to marry Him.3 years is a long time for no ring or commitment..Wake up girl He is taking you for stupid...
2006-11-28 08:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rush things? You are at the opposite end of rushing things. Usually if you hope to get married you don't go ahead and live with the person and have a child. At this point your significant other probably thinks you don't need or want to get married. And s/he probably thinks, "Why bother?"
2006-11-28 08:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine not to have a ring yet, I am in the same boat. I have been with my guy for over 2.5 years, we have a son, and neither of us is in a rush to walk down the aisle. Someday we would like to but for now we are happy to call each other husband and wife if only in a common-law way. Don't stress too much over it, a ring doesn't make a relationship, love does. Best wishes to you.
2006-11-28 08:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋