nov. 26 was our fourth anniversary, and i found pornography downloaded on his computer. this is the second time. and he doesn't do any of those things with me.
2006-11-28 08:37:11 · 26 answers · asked by reames79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him what would make him happy.. And that u would love to share his fantisies with him.. Hun lets be honest here men are men they can't help but watch porno on tv or net, its just within their nature. by getting mad at him will not take u anywhere or resolve ur problem.. neither will it stop him from doing it.. fix the problem with a solution.. try watching it together and perhaps ask him what he likes doing the most and that u wouldn't mind sharing that experience with hi..,don't forget aslong as it makes u comfortable and happy doing it as a woman.. Am not saying that u should do anything or everything against ur will. But try talking about it.. communication is the answer.. good luck.
2006-11-28 11:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by julia1975 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am going through the same thing. I snooped into my husband's email at work and found out that he and his co-workers were sending each other porn movies and pictures. He denied it when I asked him. I also found porn on our computer at home, in which he denied that too! I asked why he lied about it, he said he was embarrassed about it. I asked him if we could watch it together, he said he didn't want to. I am a sexy girl and we have great sex together. I am confused too.....I guess men watch it because they get bored and they are men, they like to fantasize about other women, it doesn't mean they don't love us or find us attractive, its just the way they are. If you keep pushing the matter, it will push him away from you. Try not to look too far into it. I have looked at porn before and not told my husband until after the fact, because I didn't know how he would react, I didn't want him feeling insecure about himself you know? I hope this helps you a little bit.
2006-11-28 19:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends if its something you want to deal with. I personally hate the excuse men have by saying its a guy thing. Does this make it right? NO If your willing to deal with it no don't be mad. If its something you won't tolerate then tell him now. Communication is the key to any of the answers. Ask him why he has it and what he gets out of it. Then ask what he needs to be happy without it. Not all men have it on their computers. I think its a respect thing. If they respect their partner then they would discuss it first. Just talk to him before blowing up. Also was he hiding it? Hiding is a bad thing. Good Luck
2006-11-28 17:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out what he's into and try it out one night ... ask him if there's anything you can change up in the bedroom since you found him looking at porn ( I don't see that as a problem but since you do I'm just trying to help ) he's looking for variety ... spice things up a little ... communicate with him ... don't get upset or angry - have you ever sat down & watched porn with him ... try it out ... then you might know why he was looking at it on the computer ... !
2006-11-28 16:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, don't be mad. It's pretty normal anymore. Just because he looks at porn (I assume it's adult and not kiddie or anything else that might get him in trouble with the law!) doesn't mean his feelings for you have changed or anything like that.
2006-11-28 19:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off lets all teach Susanne S??? Some Lang arts- second just sit back and enjoy it w/ him---its not that big of a deal!!Get over it!!
2006-11-28 18:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt be mad ! They seem to all look at porn if they can have the time without the wife around.Yeah funny they dont do all the stuff they watch either but look out he may want anal sex from watching its the big thing!
2006-11-28 16:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by jessy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Men like dirty nasty sex, if he were to do and say what he really feels inside you would think he isn't the man you thought he was. Most married man hind that side from their wife's.They no It's sick and dirty but that's what makes it exciting.
2006-11-28 18:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad.He'll be addicted to it you know that talk to him seriously.Tell him that he has no respect for himself and to you. If don't take control of that you'll be dealing with this problem more then you think. Guys are too poor and silly to depend on those disgusting images.
2006-11-28 16:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Suzanne S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the porn is always lust! he's been with you for 4 year, that's love. if it upsets you to know he is matching porn then just talk to him. it always amazes me how little people talk about the things that really matter to the, yet will talk about the weather with a stranger!
2006-11-28 16:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋