I have tried three years in a row. They are nasty , they rude, they are crudy. I have spent three horrible Christmas Eve's and refused to suffer thur Christmas Dinner with them. It was so bad my daughter came up on Christmas Eve night and apolized for their behavior. It has only gotten slightly better the next year. I am tired of being treated like I have no feelings. I watched these two for years before the divorce paw each other I do not want to watch it now. But if I don't show up the girls are mad at me. What can I do. I loved having the family together, but it is at my emotional expense and I just can't take it anymore.
2006-11-28 08:35:27 · 5 answers · asked by springer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say your children are grown so you need to talk to them. I am living kinda of the same experience but my sister ran off with my ex and they do not involve themselves with our family so that is a blessing for me. But you may want to talk to the kids and have a Christmas at your house and then they can spend maybe christmas eve with you and christmas day with them. And then next year you can switch Christmas day and Christmas Eve. There are a lot of people in your situation these days with so may familys split up. We just have to work things out but you should not have to suffer to enjoy your children. Talk with them if they are grown they will understand and help you work out a schedule. Good Luck and Hope you have a wonderful Holiday Season.
2006-11-28 08:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Virginia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your children are grown, so this is what other grown children do they choose to spend Christmas eve with one parent and Christmas day with the other or go earlier to one's parent house on Christmas day and spend the rest of the evening at the other parent's house. You are not obligated to spend Christmas with your ex and sister. Talk to your girls about your feelings and that you want to s pend the holidays with them and not their mother and work it out. The holidays is all about love anyway, so work it out.
2006-11-28 16:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grown children cant understand why you dont want to spend your holidays with your ex and sister then they need to reevaluate themselves. Why cant YOU do Christmas Eve dinner and invite your children to your house ?
2006-11-28 16:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate Christmas or any holiday on a different day. Nothing in rule book stating that you have to celebrate Christmas on Christmas.
2006-11-28 21:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to sacrifice yourself for the sake of others. If your children are grown they can make the decision to come and see you, you don't have to go there.
2006-11-28 16:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by beattyb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋