Just found out i'm pregnant i'm inly 2, the father already has 2 children and still lives with the mother of his children. what do i do?
2006-11-28 08:33:17 · 14 answers · asked by Hayley C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just to clear up a few things. i'm 20. i tp;d him as soon as i found out so he knows! said he'll be with me whatever i decide to do! For those of you who are telling me to keep my legs shut i was on the pill so believe me it was the last thing i was expecting!! I just in such shock at the moment I can't think rationally about it. The father isnt cheating him and the mother of his children only live together as she has no where else to go. they haven't been together for the past year me and him have been seeing each other for 5 months. Before anyone starts asking how i know this i've been friends with this guy for the last 3 years
2006-11-29 01:43:45 · update #1
The decision is yours, it's one of the hardest decisions you are going to have to make. Only you know what is best. Ask yourself ;Do you think you would cope on your own if that's the way it went? Is he a good father to his other two children? What would the implications be after you child is born? I know how hard it is and I really feel for you. Some ppl decide with their heart. How do YOU feel about having this child?
2006-11-28 11:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time out of your busy schedule to think rationally about what you want to do. Keeping the baby may? mean that you will be bringing it up yourself. You may want to tell this person who you were seeing but be prepared for his reaction hich may or may not be a good one. THirdly if you choose to go down the abortion track be prepared that that road emotionally is as rough as any road you choose. meaning that there is no easy answer here. Keep the baby maybe hard but you wil have a clear conscious - abort and your post abortion reactions may not be easy to deal with and you may be plagued with guilt and regret for the rest of your life. At the moment you will be in shock - so please get some non diretional counselling - meaning that the counselling wont point you in one way or another but will give you all the options. THere should be lots of good counselling services about with caring and understanding people. Also rally the troupes. Get you family involved and supportive.
This is a hard time with hard decisions but with support you will work out what is right. Good luck and god bless.
Also people use these forums because sometimes they have no other person immediately to talk to so for all of you out there - dont ridicule this person or throw up sarcastic and negative comments. If you have nothing positive to contribute go to the pet section where your sarcastic comments wont have such an impact on vulnerable people!!!!!!
2006-11-28 08:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. No matter what life will go on regardless of the father does. Tell him you are pregnant but don't expect him to be ecstatic, that's his problem. More than likely he'll be angry, try to convince you to get an abortion or deny it. Again, his problem So many women raise children alone and find wonderful-SINGLE-men to join their family. Do you really want to spend your life with a cheater? Make sure he signs the birth certificate because it takes two to make the baby and both of you are equally responsible for providing for it. Stay calm, your baby will feel what you feel.
2006-11-28 08:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I'm inly 2"
Please tell me you are not 12!
What do you do? Well somthing you were not doing before you got pregnant.. you need to THINK.
You have to grow up, take care of yourself and figure out what is best for this child. If you can not take care of the child then be a good mom and give the baby to a loving family. I hope you do whats right for you.
2006-11-28 08:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The father can't be much of a bloke if he's screwing round with you whilst his partner and children are home totally in the dark about what he is up to. Do you want his baby? do you think he will leave his family for you? my guess is he'll drop you as soon as you tell him. You really need to do what is best for you, but be prepared to do it alone.....
2006-11-28 10:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, check out your options and please take care of your health and your future. I don't know if you used any contraception, but there are nasty diseases out there.
Also, if the guy is cheating on his girlfriend with you, you can guess what a nasty character he is. Do you want to have a child with him? Do you want a child have such a father?
I don't mean to offend you, but please think about the baby in the first place.
2006-11-28 08:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Wednesday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him!! You need to think long and hard about whether you want the baby and whether the father is going to support you!!! I hope he does!! Good luck with everything
2006-11-28 08:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all take it easy...
then talk to your partner and decide what u're gonna do about it...secondly try to find ways to make ur life better like getting a work or studying..your kid will aprecciate
finally..next time use a condom! =)
good luck to u
2006-11-28 08:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by xicofb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn 2 keep your legs shut next time and find a bloke who isnt attatched
2006-11-28 10:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree with the first answer, you need to pray chick
2006-11-28 08:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋