Currently divorcing my 2nd violent husband, I'm beginning to believe that all men are untrustworthy, and violent. I'm left with 4 beautiful children, true, but also have a broken heart. Any tips to make me feel better?
2006-11-28 08:31:54 · 17 answers · asked by queen_bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
figure out why you keep making bad choices......we all do it....we keep making the same mistakes but now you have 4 kids to consider so you better figure it out so it doesn't happen again...you deserve to be happy and to have a man that loves you and your kids not hurts you.....I hope you find happiness....the really good news is...you are divorcing him....best of luck
2006-11-28 08:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should beat you just for asking that question!!
Seriously, you need to really evaluate where you are going to find these men. This is a far more complex question than Yahoo answers can help you with. There are plenty of nice men around but you have to put yourself in the right social spaces and make sure you are not falling into some self created patterns as well. Just out of curiosity, is there a history of domestic violence in your family? Good luck to you.
2006-11-28 08:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by mr_slacker70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be looking in the wrong place. I know two violent husbands total. Take heart in this: next time, you'll do better, because next time, you won't look for a husband in the same place. Next time, you'll find a husband who isn't violent by avoiding places where violent men hang out (bars, sporting events, etc.) and you'll go to places where peaceful men hang out (church, libraries, etc.)
2006-11-28 08:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably a lovely person, but I think you have a bit of a 'victim personality'. You have to change your attitude towards men, they are not all beasts. What is it about you that attracts this type of man? My first husband was evil, but I have since met and married a lovely man who is wonderful and who put up with all my insecurities when we first met. I was uptight and insecure because I didn't believe in me or that anyone could like, let alone love me. You are a wonderful person, but the first person you have to convice of that is yourself. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again!! You know I think I've heard that somewhere before! Bon chance.
2006-11-28 09:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of non-violent guys but wouldn't bet on many trustworthy. You obviously keep attracting men who are abusive. Have you thought about getting some counseling before you try for another relationship ? If you keep doing the same things you will keep attracting the same things.
2006-11-28 08:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be really picky, I swear it's better to be alone than in an abusive/violent relationship. Please don't let some a-hole that never deserved you in the first place break your heart. My first love was an violent bastard, he took all that was young in me and I let him, stand up and be counted. You are worth so much more, good luck honey there are good men out there and you will find 'the one'.
2006-11-28 08:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Flossie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are violent darlin. So sorry to hear of your situation, it must be awful for you and yer kids. Im male by the way.
My partner was subjected to violence by her ex husband , i dont know why some men are like this. The thought of hitting my Carmen has never crossed my mind , she is the love of my life and the mother of my children.
Please dont think all of us are like this coz where not .
Your broken heart will mend itself i promise, please dont give up hope. Be strong for your kids. At least you are out of this marital relationship with your husband , try to rebuild your life and dont let this horrible disgusting man control your life . I hope you and your kids stay safe. I will be thinking of you and your family . You are in my thoughts . Good luck . Remember ........... dont lose hope and never give up. Dave .
2006-11-28 09:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by warpig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are out here for you honey,you just have to find us!! Not all men are the same. It disgusts me greatly when i hear of story's like yours-it is no wonder some women stereotype all men together,i really feel for you. However,one day you will find that special man who has NOT got that "badboy" persona about him,a man who is kind,loving,thought full and respects you for who you are,and who will love only you. But, will you be able to handle that?-will there alway's be something missing-that extra bit of spice/risk/uncertainty,because that is what you are used to/conditioned to...can you handle us "nice guy's" out here?Maybe-maybe not-only time with the right man will tell for you.Best of:-)
2006-11-28 19:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has been married b4 to 2 violent husbands, that was 12 years ago. Last year she became disabled, i still love her and she does me. We met at a mutal friends party and clicked, thats all it takes. You can and will meet someone just believe in yourself and your kids :)
2006-11-28 09:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by English Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cannot speak for all men, but it makes me sick when i hear about this sort of abuse. i am sorry you have had a rough time in the past, but belive me we are not all the same.
I hope for yoursake that you do eventually find the right man, hey if yourever in the north east look me up ,lol.
Seriously there is no excuse and remember its not your fault
2006-11-28 11:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by hartmarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋