Lasy May I remet someone I knew from highschool...we started dating and then got married in August...only 3 months after we got married..he convinced me that we should get married before he leaves for Iraq. He is in Iraq right now and recently I met someone who makes me feel better than he ever has. I am confused as to what I should do.
2006-11-28 08:15:29 · 29 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
did i mention that he cheated on me a week after we got married????
2006-11-28 12:14:14 · update #1
I think that you are crossing to a home-alone process... And the new guy is filling that blank, but if I was you, I better wait till my true love comes back to put all my feeling together and make a real decision, out of true fellings...
2006-11-28 08:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mechita 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is too serious of a thing to do on a whim. You should have never married him especially when you knew you were not ready. You are always going to find guys that make you feel better than the current guy. That's call life. Now the real question is do you care about the guy in Iraq? Once you come up with the true answer to that then you will not be confuse any longer.
2006-11-28 16:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your decision. You chose a soldier. Don't go there. Your soldier boy needs you. The time for decision making is over, now it's time to make your decision work. Don't be looking for other guys, you chose one, he's yours, the other man isn't. Cut ties with him promptly! If you don't your marriage will be dangerously on the rocks.
Think about it this way, the moment you decide to leave your husband for this other man, what does that make you? A cheater. So, if you run off with this other man, won't he always be suspicious of you? Yeah, you left your soldier for him, but what's to say you wouldn't do that to the next guy that sweeps you off your feet? See where I'm headed? Mr. Dream man will eventually start wondering if you're checking out other guys. Even if he doesn't, people who know you will wonder. Guys who know the situation will wonder if they have a chance. Don't give ANYONE that chance to think badly of you.
If you decide to leave your husband now, your reputation will be toast and it's very difficult to rebuild a reputation. Personally I really don't think this is the time to be rethinking your marriage. You have given no indication that your husband has been unfaithful or abusive in anyway, you chose him, you keep him. Show him you're a strong woman and be there for him when he comes home.
2006-11-28 16:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost made this mistake two weeks ago. I met someone who made me feel great and almost left my husband over it. Thankfully, I realized what a mistake that would be, how much better any new situation is going to feel over the married situation (we all know that "new" relationship high), and came to my senses.
If your marriage is good, stay. It doesn't matter if this new thing is "better". It will just turn into what you currently have over time anyway. They all do.
Quit this person. You owe it to the committment that you made. I have now made it a rule not to leave for something better. Only leave because it's bad. It's not fair to your husband who hasn't even had a chance to be there with you.
2006-11-28 16:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to love those that they are near so this fits with you perfectly. Your husband is away and you are liking this other guy because he's here. I personally think that you should hold out for your husband. Even talking to this other guy will make your bond with him stronger and it will make your marriage harder. If you love your husband then the best thing to do is stop talking to the other guy and focus on your marriage. If you don't love your husband then you shouldn't be with him anyway. Just remember that this other guy is only there to fill the void but if you just wait for your husband to come back then it would be that much better when he does come back.
2006-11-28 16:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We can't answer this question for you, its your life and you need to live it how you see fit. No matter what we say on here none of us are going to be there for you when and if things go bad. Sure its easy for us to say what we think you should do but we don't really know unless we were in your shoes. Follow your heart, and know that the decision you make is the one you chose, regardless of the consequences. Not to mention there are 2 other people involved here, your husband and your lover.
2006-11-28 16:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl if you feel that u dont love ur husband anymore, things
definitely wont work out... Now ask ur self a question: Will u be happy ever after with this new guy... jum hard ah? If ur answer is yes you maybe leave ur husband if not, stay calm and wait for a while and see how things work out!
2006-11-28 16:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by lobita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its best if u don't leave ur husband it would not b a wise descision to make. just think about it"he is in Iraq right now and 4 u 2 b thinking abut leaving him 4 another man is wrong" make a good choice and stay 4 your husband i'm sure when he comes back u will love him just as u did before he left.
2006-11-28 16:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious commitment, and you should not do anything that would interfere with it. Be faithful to your brave husband and stop hanging around with the new guy. It is okay to feel attracted to other man, but it is not okay to indulge in those feelings as long as you are married.
2006-11-28 16:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should of told him no. reason you said yes because you feel sorry for him. now you met someone while your husband put his life for american people like you???? so, you not really confused, you met a guy that not go to war where your husband is now.
I felt bad for your husband. Same time you should say no. but you didn't. Again you are not confused about that. so you need to make decsion about this before you say to your husband because he in very seriously put his life in there and he does need your support. but if you chose not to, then you responsable for his life.
2006-11-28 16:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋