My wife came home and took off her panties. Something she never does. For whatever reason I happened to look in the basket and something was odd that caught my eye. They had a GLOB of stuff in them. Stuff that looked, smelled and felt like semen. Yeah I touched it and smelled it. I was flabbergasted and mad as you can imagine. Having an explosive temper that I'm trying to control, I did not confront her, then. Trying to develop trust and letting my mind be creative as to the possible causes I let it drift to my subconscious. And I truly wanted another possibility other than the ugly one. Fellas I know how we think and I know how most would react, I have since confronted her and of course she has denied the possibility of ever done the unthinkable. But I am now at a trust crossroads. I need some objective feedback. I know that women have an occasional discharge, for her to absolutely deny the things that I saw and experienced makes me more suspicious than just a weak excuse
2006-11-28 07:59:16 · 31 answers · asked by Cee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok... First off. OUR "discharge" and semen can sometimes smell the same! They both have a salty smell and taste, so it is not all that inconceivable that it really is discharge. If you have no other evidence, I have to say I think you are over reacting. Please dont let this ruin your relationship with your wife. If you do have OTHER GOOD reasons to believe that something else is going on, then maybe you should talk those things out. Good luck to you both!
2006-11-28 08:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some women have a heavier discharge than others ... depending on what time of the month it was ... if she was " sexually excited " or wet ... she might have had an infection and was too embarrassed to tell you ... if you c*mmed in her earlier or even the night before the semen can " leak " out after-wards ... wither it was from you or somebody else ... there could be lots & lots of different explainations ... one thing I can't tell you is exactly what it was ... if you know it smelt like semen & looked like semen ... maybe you should bring it up again ... or start looking for signs that she's cheating on you ... !
2006-11-28 08:08:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before you over react, you need to check out a few things. Look in the medicine cabinet to see if she has any med's for a yeast infection. Let her know that you are concerned about some of her recent actions that you want to sit and discuss it like two adults who love, honor and trust each other.
Don't step to her as though you are accusing her of anything. Step to her with respect.
We as women have all types of discharges, especially if we are stressed, hormonal or just aroused by a song.
Keep an open heart, and open mind. And if you pray, ask the Lord to let the Holy Spirit guide you along.
Keep it simple,
Coco
2006-11-28 08:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sounds a bit invasive. I sincerely hope my boyfriend doesn't check my panties for semen. :\
Well, if that's the first time you've checked her panties then you have no basis of comparison regarding her discharge. Every woman is different so amount can vary and the amount of times you clean yourself in a day makes a difference. Semen does make its way back out eventually, which is why I don't allow it inside. That's just gross. *shudders*
So is it possible its discharge? Sure, although I'd suggest she clean herself more often. Is it possible its semen? Yes, but again a girl should clean herself after such activities. *grimace* I'd look to other areas to see if she's cheating, not her panties.
2006-11-28 08:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Brianna 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, first of all you can't prove anything. Yes, women have discharges. Do you really think that if she had had an affair that she would bring the evidence home, so you could see and smell. I don't think so. Trust her this time. Now if it happens again then suggest that she needs to go to the doctor for a check up. So in other words you will have to take her word until she proves you otherwise. You know the old saying innocent until proving guilty.
2006-11-28 08:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
to be honest with you the same exact thing happened to me? My husband confronted me though, he did not belive that it was only a discharge.. But womens bodies are weird like around that time of the month it's worse and yeast infections, that's very common. I think I would investigate a little further, I had to show my panties to my husband for a month.. and as for taking off her panties sometimes you have to, cause it's itchy and makes you smell.. I know that's kinda a gross answer but it's true.. If she's cheatin you'll know, women become more withdrawn from you because they usually cheat for emotional reasons, not just for sex... good luck...
2006-11-28 09:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by misty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be that she has a yeast infection. That causes A BIG mess and a lot of whitish discharge, It;s unconfortable, smelly and itchy, so women have to change often than usual, or else carry the stinky smell with you. If she is aplying medication, that causes a bigger mess. This smells like yeast or beer.
Semen doesn't smell, a yeast infection does.
A bacterial infection also causes a lot of dischage, this one is whitish and/or yellowish and smells like tuna. Medication also causes more discharge.
A combination or bacterial and yeast infection causes a lot of discharge, discomfort and smell. Treatment mostly consists of think creams that are supposed to be applied internally, causing a big mess because of gravity.
Go and apologize to your wife. If you have reasons to not trust her, then drop it. There was no need for her to change right in front of you if she had something to hide. Women are very smart and woulndt be that obviuous.
Good luck
2006-11-28 08:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude you should have had the panties analyzed for semen. You are going to go bouncing off walls about something that you THINK is true.
Stop , give her the benefit of the doubt- because you love her and if the occasion comes up again get a sample and have it analyzed that way you will at least know what the heck you are actually talking about and can respond accordingly.
"We can't go on together with suspicious minds and we can't build our dreams on suspicious minds"
E
2006-11-28 08:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probally just had some discharge and wanted to get her panties off. I know it bothers me when I get it and I am sure to do the laundry so my husband won't see it. It's kind of embarrassing. I don't like the way it feels either and I can understand taking them off as soon she got home! If that's the only evidence you have I wouldn't worry about it. Our minds can create some really crazy stuff. Try to just let it go and stay out of your head!
2006-11-28 08:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to set up the surveillance... If you suspect something and she acts weird about it; then your suspicions are probably true. In all my experience my gut feeling was right. As much as I didn't want it to be. Don't count on getting an honest answer from her either.
As far as the glob goes, if it looks and smells and feels like it, then it probably is. One of my ex girlfriends would have discharges sometimes, and it NEVER looked like semen, just crusty gross stuff.
2006-11-28 08:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋