Why do so many women or young women think that having a baby?

Question

is the end of the world??? Its not, if you thought this and now have kids can you please share your stories about how actually keeping your baby instead of killing it did not ruin your life???

Answer 1

I didn't happen to me, but I know many that it did happen to. They NOW wouldn't give up their kids, but they wish like hell that they never had them due to the hardships encountered along the way raising the kid BY THEMSELVES. I know someone else who's mother pretty much took over raising the kid so the girl will say to you that having kids is great since you don't have to do anything.

Answer 2

I was 19 when I got pregnant and I cried so hard I thought I would die from that. I didn't want kids or to settle down. I thought of adoption, but I knew how my family would feel. I did feel trapped and scared! I thought the world would end! Well, my daughter is 14 months old now and I can't imagine life without her. I miss her when I am gone and I tried going out....my friend's lives are all so lame! They're drunk, broke and going no where! I have a good job, settled down with a GREAT man (and married him) and I have the most beautiful girl in the world! Even if he would have been a dead beat, I would never give her back. There is nothing like a little baby calling Mama, and wanting YOU.

Answer 3

Spoken like a true childless intruder. It is every woman's right to decide if giving birth is right for her. You are not in a desperate situation health wise or monetarily you come from a supportive environment that will help if you needed it. Not every woman is so fortunate. You think making a decision of that magnitude is done without deep thought and yes even prayer - you are wholly incorrect. I will defend a woman's right to choose as long as I live and educate women who believe as I do to take a stand as well. It is never an easy or glib trip to the Dr to terminate a pregnancy just as giving birth is no trip to the ice cream parlor. Think - do you really believe it is as black and white as MEN would have you believe. Men cannot bear children and suffer no consequence at their conception. It is the woman who must bear the responsibility-the cost and the loss. A man can leave and they do-a woman once a mother remains so until the day she dies. Consider that next time. Yes birth is beautiful and life is precious - but so is the life of a woman unprepared precious and her decision is between her and G-d. We have no business creating a false hope that all will be well just because a child is born. I would rather a woman abort than abandon-shake-starve or otherwise abuse an unwanted child.

Answer 4

I think that it would depend on the circumstance. I rarely see women who opted to have the baby and regret it. I do see women who opted for the abortion and regret it. However, I'm sure there are just as many who opted for the abortion and are glad they did.

The real problem here is how many people have accidental pregnancies. If you don't want to get pregnant, use the pill! If you don't want and STD, use the pill AND condoms. Having a baby may not be the end of the world, but if you don't genuinely want one then use protection! Getting AIDS from a one night stand would be more disastrous.

Answer 5

I don't undestand why women think getting pregnant is the end of the world (whether married or unmarried). Yes, you'll have more responsibilities in life, but seriously is it that bad?? I mean you have to support that little baby and take care of it and raise it, but even if your unmarried, I think with the help of your spouse or parents you can get through it. There's nothing impossible in this world. It will be a hard journey, but it's all worth it in the end knowing someone who is a part of you is having a good life. I dont understand how women can have an abortion? Your killing your baby!! Your never took the babys consent when you had sex and made a kid. So why do you want to kill him/her?? If its sooo bad for you to look at that child come into this world, then I'm sure theres a lot of couples out there that are dying to have kids but can't. So if you don't appreciate it and can't take care of it..let someone do it but don't kill it for God sake.

Answer 6

Let me say that I never thought it was the end of the world, but I heard from so many women older than me that I was crazy for having kids so young. After having my 1st son (I was 24) I was yelled at by a woman in the mall for being an unwed teenage mom! I was neither unwed nor teenage! I just had my second at age 27 and have found that being a young mom is the best thing in the world! I have tons of energy for my children, and am much more likely to see them grown with children of their own! Older parents tend to be more set in their ways, and not as vigorous in playing with their kids. My friend is 38 and says she wishes now she had made the decision to have children sooner.

Answer 7

I was 2 weeks away from 19 when I discovered that I was pregnant, even though I was married I kept thinking NOT ME NOT ME I HAVE A FUTURE I HAVE A LIFE PLANNED AND DOWN THE DRAIN IT GOES. I had an amazing pregnancy and now I have an amazing 10 month old daughter who is the light of my life...I love her more than my life or the world. I am going ahead with my plans, I work full time at a telemarketing agency and I do the payroll part. I have gone back to school for my CNA and in February am going for Pharmacy Tech, then eventually my LVN, I know it will happen and I thank GOD EVERYDAY THAT HE GAVE ME MY LITTLE ANGEL. (crying as I type) My husband hopes to go to college someday, you never understand unconditional love until you have a child.

Answer 8

If you're not financially, mentally, and emotionally stable, then raising a child can be difficult. We waited several years (after marriage) before having a baby and feel that it was the right choice for us. We were more ready to be parents and were thrilled when we got pregnant.

I think that women who feel "it's the end of the world" are just saying that they are not ready to handle the lifelong commitment of having a baby.

I've never had an unwanted pregnancy so I wouldn't have any idea as to what goes through someone's mind when contemplating abortion.

Just my opinion.

Regards.
mari

Answer 9

I am 21 and have never been pregnant. I'm married and actually would give anything to be pregnant, but the doc isn't sure that I can, so I don't understand why anyone would kill a baby when there are so many people in the world that would do anything to care for a child.

Answer 10

im 18 and im 5 months pregnant at the mo. it wasnt planned but i decided not to have an abortion, as i didnt feel it was the correct decission for me. being pregnant so young has not been easy and i'm sure when baby arrives it will be difficult, but it deff is not the end of the world and now ive had a chance to get used to the idea im enjoying my pregnancy and i am looking forward to having a little baby.

Answer 11

I think with some it starts off with the parents -- My mom told me that my life would be over if I had a child -- I got pregnant with my son when I was 17 and had him when I was 18 -- Altho I was scared I didnt think my life was over -- I am 23 and my lil boy is 5 and I have the best life ever -- I couldnt imagine my life without my lil man
I am actually planning on having another one soon.
Also I think that when someone is uneducated that may have a lot to do with it, there is that ignorance about it.
Not to mention those who have the "I'm caught" mentality. They dont want mommy or daddy to find out that they are having sex but they dont do it safely.