what should i do?

Question

this girl i have been dating for 4 months is movin to south carolina nd we live in pennsylvania and its bull **** b/c its for he STEP-parents idk wat to do i think she is the one and she thinks the same but we dont know wat to do will someone awnser me

i am 17 and so is she

Answer 1

Move to Kentucky, get married, and live in the hilss

Answer 2

It would help to know how old you are. You sound really upset and I'd like to know more of your situation to give you a more helpful answer if I can.

Addtional Information: Thank you for giving your ages. This is a hard one. The step parent who made the decision to move may not have an "evil" intent in separating you. It may be that the parent is trying to provide a better home for her. How do they feel about you? If they like you, you could fly to her place every couple of months for a visit.

Advice: Let your emotions cool. If you are ment to be together, one year will pass quickly and you both will be 18.

Agree together that you will do something to strengthen the relationship so that when the time has come to meet face to face you both will be more mature and better people; ie, get a job and save money, take a class on relationships, volunteer to help someone less fortunate than yourself, etc. Think of ways to make the time pass quickly. Agree that you will be happy because you are doing something for each other that is positive and will have a good outcome for yourselves and others.

This is a growing up time. It is a time of loss and suffering. It can either work well for you or otherwise depending on how you handle the situation. Try to be mature. Anger is not the solution. Blame is not the solution. Know it is a test that will make you a better man worthy of her love and one she will be proud of.

This is tough, but you can do it! You will have other disappointments in life because that is just how "real" life is. By facing this one and making wise choices, you will be prepared to be a strong husband, father, and neighbor.

I want you to know I am rooting for you.

Answer 3

Well..you could always do the whole long distance thing, but it really really hard. My bf moved to AR and we broke up shortly after. You could do the whole let her go and see if she returns bit, but i wouldn't chance it.

If you think this girl could be the one, you can't let her go without a fight. Love....true love...is so hard to find nowadays and if that is what the two of you have you can't let that go. Maybe you could go with her or she could stay or you could try the long distance thing. But you have to keep in contact all the tI'me. The phone, letters, e-mail, im is all you'll have now. You have to treat it like it's the best thing in the world, like long distance dates with a girl that might be the one can keep anyone going.

If your love is strong enough you will stay together. Nothing, not even distance can break what is meant to be. you just have to have faith and that your love can withstand this.....i really hope everything works out for the two of you...Good luck
~ak

Answer 4

would it make you feel better if i tell you im in california and my girlfriend is in a different "country".. 8000 miles apart.. at least you guys are just in different states..

long distance relationship doesnt work for everybody.. it would take great amout of commitment.. and the weird thing is, i loved her the most compared to my past relationships.. your love for each other will define it al.. =)

you can try.. and when the time comes that you can stand on your own, you can live together. any way there's nothing you can do right now to stop them from moving right?

i hope it will work out..

and did i say, im a lesb? its more complicated than ur case..

Answer 5

unless she is over 17 or 18 there is not much you can do...sorry I know it hurts I was is love and my family moved me 6 hours away so we were not able to hold the relationship together. Long distance relationships hardly work out unless there is major comitment...I moved in with my bf/ now husband when I was 17 because my parents tried to keep us apart.

Answer 6

Long distance relationships never work. They may work for a few months or even a year or so... but, eventually, you two will meet new people and find new interests. It's completely up to you, though. We all have to learn from our mistakes, and if you want to try to give this a chance, then go for it.

Answer 7

dont think of it as a negative- ,just think of it as the perfect test to test how strong your relationship really is :) you guys can talk on the phone and online--maybe you can see eachother on holidays and stuff :) your still 17, when you turn 18 you can do whatever you guys want,, this move is just to see if she really is the one,,because if she is then your relationship will pass the test,you guys will still love each other just as much and if you guys call it quits then guess what she isnt "the one" i hope that was helpful and i hope your relationship doesnt change....just hold on one more year :)

Answer 8

If she's the one then you will just have to have a long distance relationship. However, you have only been dating for 4 months. my advice would be just let it go and see what happens. if its meant to be, it will be.

Answer 9

It's hard but you have to ask yourself, Is it worth trying a long distance relationship? If it seems too hard, then I'm sorry you have to move on. It must be so hard. I'm sorry :(

Answer 10

try the long distance thing... visit every weekend... and see what happens... 4 months isn't long enough to decide that...