Any help would be more than welcome?

Question

I am preg. with my 2nd child and when we were planning this preg. I remembered the pain of labor and delivery but over looked how miserable preg. was for me. Once agian I am absolutly miserable. I believe it is worth it but I have every symptom there is to have and have tried every thing to subdue them and nothing works. Alot of woman say preg. is or was the best time of there life. What is the secret? I will try any and all of your suggestions that aren't harmfull to my baby of course so please help. I will take whatever you got. I just want to say that I don't regret the decision to have anouther child and am verry happy to be expecting. I am 8 weeks. Thank-you all in advance.

Answer 1

I'm also on my 2nd pregnancy. This one is way more uncomfortable since I have a toddler to take care of also. You are right around the time where morning (all day) sickness peaks so hopefully it goes away soon for you.

Here are some things that worked for me. Try to have some time just for you. Maybe send your older child off to Grandma's for the day or have your hubby take the older one out for the day. This gives you time to just relax and not have to take care of anyone else.

Warm (not hot) showers and baths are ok during pregnancy. You don't want to overheat but it's soothing to just soak for a little while.

Pregnancy massages are AWESOME!! But here's the catch..you have to be in your 2nd or 3rd trimester so you can do that in January. No harm in hubby giving a light massage, rubbing your neck, etc. But nothing too hard.

Drink plenty of fluids. Sometimes it's the dehydration that gets you down.

Try to spend a little time outdoors each day getting some fresh air.

Hope that helps and I wish you all the best. Remember, in a few weeks it will get better. You'll have about 13 weeks of peace before that final trimester gets you.

Good luck.

Regards,
mari

Answer 2

Don't be to hard on yourself, I also hated being pregnant. The first time was bad, also suffered every symptom imaginable, and the second time was just as bad if not worse, because I kept kicking myself in the butt for not remembering how miserable I was. We are now thinking about having a third and one of my biggest fears is being miserable again.

Anyways, I think one of the ways to help ease your discomfort is to accept any and all help offered to you and don't be afraid to ask for more help. Chances are the family already knows how hard this pregnancy and the last have been on you. Take as many naps or rests possible, it helps time pass and gets you geared up for the new arrival. Let your husband or partner handle things that you normally feel are your responsibilities. And just relax. Remember, 9 or 10 months of discomfort isn't really that long when you cosider the life long gift of love you will recieve in return.

Hang in there. You'll make it

Answer 3

With my first baby I was lucky. I didn't get ANYTHING except heartburn at the end. With my current pregnancy I've been miserable the entire time (now 31 weeks). I've had everything. I guess I just took things a day at a time. Luckily for me I worked at a hospital and my husband didn't want me in that environment while pregnant so I'm not working. I rest when I need to and don't have to worry about work and such..just our son who is four but a big help. As far as suggestions...I guess my only one is take it day by day. Always remember it's worth it in the end although it seems to take forever to get there. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

Sorry to hear your so miserable!! With my first, I didn't have any troubles what-so-ever, except swollen feet the last week, but with this second pregnancy, I can share in some of your misery. I had sickness, aches, cramps, fatigue... all the good stuff. I'm now 24wks and feeling fairly well. I still am very tired, and more achy than with my first pregnancy for sure, but now I can't say I'm miserable. Try walking around the block for mild breath of fresh air, try peppermints or candy canes for nasea, and take tylenol or a warm shower for your aches. I hope it gets better for you in a few weeks when the second trimester comes. Good luck!!

Answer 5

I also suffered during my pregnancy. I was eventually medicated so that the all day sickness didn't harm myself or the baby.

I don't think there is a secret. I think all women react differently to the surge of hormones. Some women look great, feel great and have energy to spare when others are sick as dogs, tired as all heck and break out like they were teenagers again.

Best of luck! I am headed for round 2 myself in a few month. The fear of doing it again has made me put it off for longer then I would like. Keep us posted - maybe you will find the secret!!

Answer 6

Just wanted to tell you that you are not alone. I hated being pregnant with my twins so much I had my tubes tied! I just never ever ever want to go through that again. My first pregnancy with my son was ok not great but ok but I really did want to die when I was pregnant with my girls I was that sick. It was by far anything BUT the best time of my life.

Try to enjoy the little things, the baby kicks, the picking out of nursery items and find yourself some cute maternity clothes. Remember you only have 32 weeks left! It wont last forever and like you said its worth it in the end

Answer 7

Wish there was a magical answer, but from what I understand, It is mostly genetics! I know this must be true, b/c my mom never got sick while preg, and neither did I. My friends mother stayed sick and so did she through her preg. I am sorry to hear it though. I guess the only relief is to have others help you if your lucky!

Answer 8

I started making things for the baby to try to keep my mind off of it all. I was severly sick...had to be hospitilized...with my second. So, I just tried to keep my mind off of it by doing things for the babies room, scrapbooks, etc. The one thing that really helped with the nausea was drinking things that were really tart. For about a week, all I could even look at was cran-apple juice. Sucking on lemons/limes also seemed to do the trick! Good luck, and you won't regret it, seeing my son smile every day now makes every bit of pain, discomfort all worth it!

Answer 9

I've been really nausea with my second child, the dr prescribed zofran, but I noticed a peppermint works great also. Otherwise, my head and back hurt. I already look 4-5 months preg and I crave turkey sandwiches all day. Oh, and my boyfriend won't have sex w/me and I'm horney. So, lets hope things get better for the both of us.

Answer 10

Have your husband massage your feet. You can get very relaxed with a ten to twenty minute foot massage. Also soak your feet. There is a pressure point for every part of your body in your feet. If my feet feel good the rest of my body usually follows. Good luck.