i think some of my friends think that i am only bi because of my fiance but thats not even true it was me that brought it up first and we have fun doing what we do and i feel very judged by people for this??
2006-11-28 07:10:48 · 14 answers · asked by KrazyWithA*K* 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
in the end ... who cares what others think.
If you and your fiance are secure in your relationship and view the extra sex as just 'fun,' then you guys are, in my humble opinion, fine.
If, however, you or your furture spouse are in the slightest bit 'wierded out' by your bedroom fun, then it MIGHT be bad for you future together.
all in all, if you are secure about what you do then let those haters hate while you are feeling loved by your man and having great sex with your woman.
2006-11-28 07:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by krillin5959 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope, it's not wrong to be bisexual. It's a valid, REAL sexual orientation. Bisexuals aren't confused, greedy, in denial, indecisive, in a phase, or anything else. They just like both sexes.
And nope, being polyamorous/having an open relationship isn't wrong. It's definitely not something everyone should do- most people can't handle it, be it the jealousy factor, the strain it puts on intimacy, and all that. For others, it's a piece of cake and works for them. It just depends on the individuals involved. As long as everyone knows what's going on and is okay with it (and not just going along with it, but truly okay with it), then it's not cheating (don't cheat!), and it's all good. I trust you and your fiance and anyone else who's in on this thing have talked about it, have whatever rules you need in place, and have given lots of thought and planning to the arrangement, and are willing to take the consequences from it.
The only thing I have to say is to remember that bisexuality and polyamory are two totally different things. A lot of straight and gay people are polyamorous, too, and a lot of bisexuals are monogamous. There's this huge stereotype that if you are bisexual, you have to or will automatically want to romantically or sexually engage both sexes at the same time- and that's just not true. If you are polyamorous, it's because you want to be polyamorous, not because you're bisexual.
That's all; good luck! Just shed off everyone's judgements- you know what's best for you.
2006-11-28 17:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think that its wrong 2 b BI but i do think that it is wrong to have a FIANCE and an open relationship! Thats wrong if thats ur fiance that u should not want to explore other people u should want only each other.
2006-11-28 15:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as everyone's on the same page, then I can't see how you're hurting anyone. I only think open relationships are wrong when not everyone realizes that the relationship is open.
As far as bisexuality, to each his/her own. It's the same deal. As long as everyone know's what's what, then I don't think it's wrong.
It's your relationship - don't second guess yourself because of the judgements of others.
2006-11-28 15:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by LifesAMystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only wrong to have an open relationship if your partner doesn't know your relationship is an open one. I wouldn't say it's wrong if you both agree to it, stupid maybe. You're risking your relationship because there could be jealousy problems or you or your partner could fall in love with another person.
2006-11-28 18:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thought in bi-sex is that your never going to be faithful. Do you like girls or boys? Can't be both you can't be committed to both because you will always be cheating on one. To get married would be a joke...your pledging your life and committent to one person but sleeping with another...NO. He likes it now but jealousy will rear it's ugly head and it will never work for long term. Trust me!
So drop the fascade of marriage because that is just going to be a waste of time and money...keep having fun and then decide really which way you want to swing in your life. You can't have both.
2006-11-28 15:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first guy - there is no such thing as bisexual. If you claim to be its only because you want to believe you are. How can you honestly be equally turned on by both? If you happen to be gay, it happened for whatever genetic reasons, but if you are attracted to the opposite sex you are hetero and you cannot be gay.
2006-11-28 15:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is not wrong to do anything with your personal life that is not harming anyone else so screw what your friends think live your life you only come around once
2006-11-28 15:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by the one 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutly nothing wrong with it. if your happy about it thats all that matter.
2006-11-28 16:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by tazangel1992 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes on both accounts.
Not judging you, God is the only one that judges us.
Peace!
2006-11-28 15:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋