Missed Miscarriage?

Question

I just had my 9 week ultra sound to see the baby's heart beat. Unfortunately, we didnt see one. My dr. said that the baby should have been miscarried, but for some reason my body held onto it. The baby doesnt have a heart beat, and she has no requested for some blood work to be done, and I am scheduled to have a procedure done on friday to expel the baby. Are there any chances the dr could be wrong? She said that its just an abnormal sperm or egg where the baby isnt developing correct, and it had nothing to do with what I could or couldnt do.

This would be my first child and both my husband and I are sooo devastated. Has this happened to anyone else?

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear this. To answer your question, yes this has happened to me. With my first pregnancy I began bleeding at 13 weeks. When I went to the doctor it appeared that the baby had not been growing for around 5 to 6 weeks.

I would definitely request a second ultrasound so that you can see for certain what is going on. It helps to know.

It has been speculated that nearly half of pregnancies end in miscarriage. There are many reasons that it happens, but in most cases it's just something isn't developing correctly.

I'm not sure if it's much consolation to you, but I went on to have another baby less than a year later, two years after that, I had another baby.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

The exact samething happened to me and my husband, expect it was to be our fourth baby instead of our first. I went in for the ten week check and there was only an empty sack, no feasible fetus could be found. My doctor gave me the option of waiting it out or having a d&c. I chose to try and wait it out (I believed that God had given us this child and noone else should take it except Him); however, two weeks later I still had not had a miscarriage and my HCG levels were extremly high (abnormally high), so I had to go ahead with a d&c for fear of infection and further complications.

I would be worried about the doc not ordering any blood work. That is usually standard procedure. Ask him if you could let nature take its course, or at least try to let nature take its course.

I know it doesn't make you feel any better, but it appears you have had a blighted ovum. (Samething here.) And it is nature's way of taking care of abnormal things. I know you are devasted, I was too. I cried over a baby I never had for quite sometime. Time does heal. We now have a fourth child, a beautiful baby boy, and I know that without the lost baby I would have never had my baby boy. Hang in there........there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Best of luck and I hope this helps!!!

Answer 3

Hi, im so sorry to hear this! And unfortunatly the body sometimes doenst catch the miscarry for some reason. If they showed the baby on the ultra sound and there was no heartbeat then yes it is for sure a miscarry and not healthy to keep it in you, very rarely do they misdiagnose that. Im so sorry.
But its better to have your body realize something was wrong with the egg/sperm than have it carried out and have a problem pregnancy or unhealthy baby.
You can try again, make sure you are getting lots of folic acid!!! Keep on your prenatals,
my best wishes to you and your husband!

Answer 4

I had a very close girlfriend that had a similar problem. She was so upset that she made them check again just before her "d&c". She is very happy she did since the doctor saw that heartbeat! She now has a healthy baby boy amost a year old.

Now, her situation is very rare. There is no harm in having a second look to be sure. If they are sure then you will need the "d&c" to expell the tissue. If not you can get very ill.

I myself have had miscarriages. They are very painful both physicly and emotionally. Take your time. Get counceling, read a book on the loss of a child. Do what you need to heal. Others will give you tons of advise. Mine is to take care of your heart!

Best of Luck!

Answer 5

I just went through the same thing. I was 12 weeks and no heartbeat. I had an earlier ultrasound and saw the baby and there was a heartbeat. We are completely heartbroken. It just happen on the 17th of Nov. It is extremely hard but it does get better. I know its hard right now and you are tired of hearing (everything happens for a reason) but it does and you will get better. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how it feels and i wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

This exact situation is happening with one of my friends right now. She had her d&c performed yesterday and was 9 weeks pregnant. Her doctor reassured her that there was nothing that could have been done differently, and that this is not uncommon. In fact, he said she should be able to get pregnant again soon with no problems. Take care of yourself, and know that after you mourn your loss you still have a lot to look forward to!

Answer 7

im sorry :( it does happen sometimes unfortunately. THis didnt personally happen to me , i had a "normal" miscarraige. but a good friend of mine had this happen at 17 weeks.. well it happened at 13 weeks but they didnt discover it until a 17 week ultrasound. sometimes it "just happens". if you are skeptical that they are wrong, ask them to ease your mind before your d and c with another u/s.

Answer 8

yes,twice in two years,i went in to have an ultrasound done and they told me the same thing,they took blood there at the hospital,but as soon as i got home i miscarried,i am so sorry