He's a complete jerk! What should I do?

Question

I am 6 weeks pregnant by a man that i've been friends with for 10 years(i'm 23 now). He was my first boyfriend in highschool as I was hisfirst girlfriend. I told him today that I am pregnant and he was so nasty towards me telling me to have an abortion. He acts like he doesnt even care. I want this baby but I know it's not just my decision. Should I keep the baby or have an abortion?

Answer 1

Keep the baby. I was 18 when I got pregnant, and my bf at the time became abusive towards me because of the stress of me being pregnant. I left him, and now I'm 25 with a 6-year-old son. I am in a very loving relationship, and my bf now loves my son as his own. It's better to raise a child on your own, than to have the dad around. There are plenty of men out there who love kids, and will love you no matter what. Don't kill a baby just because the man doesn't want it. If he was soooo set on NOT getting you pregnant, he should have thought about that before he had unprotected sex with you. Now he will have to pay child support. Good luck to you, and PLEASE have the baby! Who cares wha t your boyfriend thinks. It's your body, and your baby now. Lose him!

Answer 2

You should keep your baby. Men love to run from responsibility, especially when it comes to kids. I'm sure he wasn't nasty towards you while you two were making the baby. You really don't need this stress at anytime in the pregnancy, or does the baby. I say this because whatever you feel, the baby feels. It sounds like this relationship is dwindeling. You have been together since you were kids. It may be time to let him go, or he may make your life miserable. Do some soul searching, don't kill your baby, no man is worth that!!! He will probably leave you whether you abort this pregnancy or not. LET HIM GO. Lots of luck to you and your child. I know you are very confused at this time, but that passes, especially once you see your baby on the ultrasound and hear the heartbeat. There is NOTHING in the world more beautiful. And NO man has the power to destroy that. Keep your baby. Good luck

Answer 3

Hi, first off all. My name is Liz. I really wanted to tell you that there is no reason for you to abort a baby that is a part of you already. think about it the baby is almost going to turn 2 months old and is growing inside of you. How in the world are you going to get rid of that poor thing like if it was a piece of trash or something. You are 23 years old use some common sense, only because your boyfriend don't want the kid means that you should go and have an abortion. Leave him he's the one that's going to miss ou tin all the wonderful stages of parenthood. It is the most wonderful thing that can hapen to you or anyone else. Trust me all this 9 months that you're going to go through may not be the best and things like that but when you go into labor and have YOU'RE child that is going to be the moment that you realize that you made the best decision. i hope you the best and think about it.

Answer 4

Well first off....congrats on finding out your prego!!

Second, please do not base your decision on a man. You are an adult and need no one to help you. You can do anything on your own and do not need a baby daddy to help you. In the end it may end up being more trouble then you know.

Abortion is your decision. And only your decision. His opinion matters in the outcome of the childs life...but not in ending it. You have the right to have one if you CHOOSE and not to have one if you wish not to. He can sign over parental rights before the baby is even born and have nothing to do with it. You do not have to abort.

Everything you are feeling the baby is feeling at this point. You really should take a deep breath and try to relax. All the anxiety you feel your little one is feeling also. RELAX

I would give him a couple of days to digest the fact that he is going to be a father and then try to speak to him then. If he is still behavin gthe same way...girl...its better off that you found out now then once hes got a ring on your finger. Do you want to raise your child in that type of atmosphere?!

Sweetie...good luck. And though I may not have answered your question entirely no one else is in your shoes and can. You have to make these decisions for yourself. Just know I am thinking about you and wishing you the best. Good luck once again.

Answer 5

Hey! Why would you let this guy tell you to have an abortion if you don't want to? Yes you both have rights but YOU have the right to NOT have an abortion. I hear about this a lot on here and other places. I don't understand why you'd even consider it if you don't want to. That baby is part of you as well as him. Why he would want to kill something that's part of him I don't know. If you don't want an abortion then DON'T! Please think about this. Don't do anything before you think about it. Wait a week and really think about it. You are an adult, it's time to act like one, my friend. If it were me {and I've been there-but my father wanted me to have the abortion. I didn't talk to him again. He cut me out of a million dollar will, but I had my son} if it were me, I'd lose the boyfriend and keep the baby. You chose what you want. He has no right to MAKE you get an abortion. Please, feel free to email me if you need to talk or just unload.

Answer 6

Not to call you wrong, but it is all your decision. If the man didn't want to deal with anything like this, he should not of had sex with you. If he is going to act like that, and you want the baby, do what is right in your heart. YOU are the one that is pregnant and it's 100% your right to choose. I'm sorry that he is acting that way, it's hard to feel alone that way, but maybe if you have this baby, he will grow up a little. I don't know your situation, but I wish you the best of luck. When I first became pregnant I was very scared (i'm now due anyday) and it's the most exiting feeling in the world. When you get furthur along and feel your child moving and kicking you, you will feel sooo much love for something you haven't even seen.Please think long before you make a decision.

Answer 7

It is just your decision! Do you want to seriously live the rest of your life with an abortion on your conscious just because the daddy is being an a**? I tihnk that you should keep the baby. Most men get scarred when they know that they have a responsibility. So just give him a while to think and try to get him to understand that killing is a sin. Even though you nor him are doing the actual killing but you are giving the doctors permisson so it is just like you are doing it yourself. I hope you come up with the right decision for the baby's sake.

Answer 8

Being one of those thousands of couples out there trying to concieve and have not been able to, I can think of several alternatives other than abortion. Adoption is a fine example if you feel you can not take care of the baby. However, one thing you do not want to do is to let him pressure you in to something you may regret the rest of your life. At least you recognize the fact he is a complete jerk, and if he wants to not be in his baby's life that his choice to make, however make sure you make him pay child support if you decide to keep the baby. If he did not want a child he should have stepped up and used a condom, and not left it to chance that you would not get pregnant. When you say it is not just your decision your wrong its your body, and its your right to give birth if you decide to.

Answer 9

Have the baby and if you can't raise it, give it up for adoption. Infertile couples are literally waiting years to adopt a baby and the child would be cherished.

As for the jerk, forget about him. How dare he tell you to have an abortion? Does he have the right to tell you to abort because he is the father of the baby? No way. He gave up the right to tell you to have an abortion when he had sex with you. He's 23 and knows that sex causes babies, so if he didn't want to be responsible for a baby he should have kept his pants ON.

Creep. Tell his mom on him LOL

Answer 10

If you want to keep the baby, KEEP THE BABY! Lose the boyfriend. If he can't handle it, too bad. Those are the consequences you have to face when having sex. He should own up to his responsibility, but unfortunately, he's not man enough. Just because he doesn't want it doesn't mean you can't have it.

I know someone who was in that same situation. Her boyfriend (now husband) manipulated her into getting an abortion even though he knew she wanted to keep the baby. To this day, she hasn't forgiven herself. (Don't ask me how she forgave him.) What was even more hurtful was that at the same time, his sister was 5 months pregnant and lost her baby. He was devistated. She couldn't understand why he was so upset about his sister, but was so cold towards his own child? Now, he wants a baby and now, she's not so sure. Please don't get caught up like this.