Readers, I am truly scared and I need advice. I am 10 weeks 2 days pregnant today. I had no worries until I had a flash back of a night in September. Me and my boyfriend had a fight one night and I ended up sleeping with one of my friends. This was around the time I concieved. But, me and the guy have talked about it, and he said that he didn't *** in me that night, that all he could have done was pre-***. Is it rare to get pregnant off of this? Me and my boyfriend slept together a lot in sept and he came everytime. I need advice. what should I DO?
2006-11-28 06:45:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can still get pregnant from pre-***, your "friend" is just trying to take any responsibility off himself right away by feeding you a line of BS. When the baby is born you could get a paternity test to see whos baby it is if both guys try to deny responsibility. Those can be expensive though.
No matter what though, You need to tell your boyfriend what happened if you haven't already. You have to let him know that he may not be raising his own child. If he stays with you after knowing the truth then good for you guys, I hope everything works out, if he leaves and trys to deny his responsibilities you can get the paternity test done for court and sue him for child support, if it is his. If it isn't his then you could go after your friend if you really wanted to. I think in the long run though you should save everyone alot of time, hassle, stress, and pain and just come clean now and see what happens and go from there. And in the future use a contraceptive!
2006-11-28 07:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... i'm 10 weeks and 2 days today too!! Congrats. I have the exact same situation. Two different guys. The one closest to the right timing says he's probably infertile ( says him, and he pulled out. Not that that means anything) Men don't know if and when thay have pre***. The other guy never used anything, but the timing is off a little. So i don't know for sure either, and you don't need to right now. When the baby is born give the two names to your local Child Support Office. they will do paternity tests. My advice, if you are still with your boyfriend then is to have the other guy do one first and not tell your BF. if it's not the other guys, you'll know for sure. If you aren't with him still by then, they both will still have to take the test and the county will make them pay
2006-11-28 07:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am guessing your boyfriend doesnt know that you slept with your friend if you feel that your friend could be the father of the baby you need to get everything out not just for you and your boyfriend and your friend but the baby has a right to know. And it is rare for a girl to get pregnant off of pre*** but it does happen.
2006-11-28 06:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think there is a possibility that your boyfriend is not the father, then you should have a paternity test done. Does he know about this one night affair you had?
Pre-ejaculate does contain sperm, so even if you had unprotected sex with this other guy and he "pulled out" before reaching climax, there is still a possibility that he could be the father.
2006-11-28 06:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by quatrapiller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get the morning after pill!!!! A girl can get pregnant at anytime. She can be on her period and get pregnant. You need to always carry condoms with you. NO EXCUSES!! And if you 2 are going to have sex on a regular basis the she needs to get on Birth control. By the way, it doesn't matter how much you masturbate and how much you pull out, it only takes 1 sperm cell to get a girl pregnant. And pre-*** is a lubricant, it is there to help keep the friction down. And yes there are thousands of sperm cells in pre-***.
2016-05-22 22:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are that pre come guy is not the father. but he may be. have you told your b/f about the inconter you had after the fight? you should tell him so he knows. then after the baby is born you should get a dna test. also ask the other guy if he has a history of anything that could hurt your new baby. then tell the doctor what to look out for if anything. good luck and try not to stress over it. chances are your b/f his the father.
2006-11-28 07:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check you dates with a pregnancy calculator on when you would have conceived and check which one of your men you slept with around then.
Unless you want the other guy to be responsible for the baby if it is him I'd just not tell anyone.
Oh and yes pre-*** can get you pregnant it happens a lot.
2006-11-28 06:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well theres not too much to do except get a dna test, and find out for sure. You cant possibly just live with that wonder and secret for the life of your baby. You owe it to all involved to do the right thing. Scary as hell I'm sure to be in your shoes, but the truth will set you free. Good luck!
2006-11-28 06:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can get pregnant from pre-***, but the odds of it are fairly low, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's more likely you're pregnant by your boyfriend.
2006-11-28 06:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tuff one. I would have to say that it is unlikely for you to become pregnant when someone didn't fully *** inside you. But it is possible. I would be honost with your boyfriend. I know that's hard, but you have to realize that there is a possibilty that you could have gotton pregnant that way. Like I said "Unlikely" you may just want to avoid bad problems later. If your boyfirend is totally sure that child is his and it's not. It could be a lot harder later then It is now. Good luck though.
2006-11-28 06:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Regina D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋