i dont think its post pardem depression. I think i don't have time for him and his sh!t now that i have three kids to take care of. He shows no affection to me and i just don't think we love each other any more should i wait and see what happens or send him packing?
2006-11-28 06:40:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men please take a good look at this post. You too could be married to a skank like this. They do go crazy from time to time..........
Ladies, this is why we put off getting married as long as possible.
2006-11-28 07:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your emotions are out of whack right now. Talk to him and tell him how you're feeling. Let him know if there's anything he can do to help you or make you feel loved and cared for. Don't make any decisions that you might regret later. Just wait it out. Try talking to your mom, a girlfriend or family member. You need all the help and support you can get right now. I know it's not easy, but hang in there.
2006-11-28 06:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could just be stress....for the both of you. If you still think theres even a little chance you can make it i'd give it just a little longer, but if you know that you don't love hiom anymore than let him go. And if you haven't already, you should talk to him about how you feel and what needs to be done to make you feel better, and same with him. GOOD LUCK. And congrats on the new baby.
2006-11-28 06:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way now, how was your feelings b4 you got pregnant? If you felt this way b4 you got in that situation why would you continue to have this child. I really think that it is post pardem depression and your feelings are all mixed up, things do not seem like they are going the way you expected. Have you tried talking to him and letting him know how you feel? I would try to communicate with him to see if we can improve the relationship or if there is something that can be done.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 06:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by sexceeladie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What!! Marriage is not about having kids and then waking up one day and deciding that you happen not 'to like' your husband anymore!!
If you feel like he is not giving you much attention anymore, speak to the freakin' man. I don't know how many times people do this. You have kids with him, and you have three of them. Don't you think its a bit late to decide to leave their father? Don't you think the kids will be hurt, knowing that mommy wanted leave dad, because for what reason...'I just didn't like him anymore.'
Talk to your husband or go to counseling. To leave him just because you don't like him anymore, is not a good reason. And it breaks the household in two......whatever you do, don't ruin your kids house.
2006-11-28 06:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may not think it is post partum depression but i would say to give it sometime and talk to him-let him know how shaky his family is and how quickly the ones he has taken for granted can be gone and see if this makes any difference to him--if not make arrangements-because of the 3 kids you do have--it is not fair to leave them with out a family bc you two cannot overlook some differences!
2006-11-28 07:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a little longer and try to make it work you guys have three kids after all but in a few months if he is still giving you hell then leave
2006-11-28 06:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO ANYTHING FOR UP TO THE NEW BABY'S FIRST BIRTHDAY!!! just a rule of thumb. i would have said hte same to Britney Spears if she had asked me. (even if she should have divorced that moron the day after she married him) but, i say wait. you have you and your kids to think about. don't add another issue onto your plate right now. it may seem easier, but it isn't. wait out the year. if you still feel this way, then leave. with a year, you can put aside money for legal fees, new furniture, first and last month on a new place, those type of things that is hard to save for on your own.
fyi.....i stayed the year and left anyway. but i do feel better knowing i made the right choice.
2006-11-28 06:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first things first-congrats on the baby.you stated you don't think it's post partum depression,but i believe you're mistaken.i suffered from it for over a year after the birth of my third child and i DO know what you're going through.i "hated" my husband,my friends,life etc. what i really needed was someone to listen to me and help me out once in awhile.please try to talk to your husband.men can be surprisingly understanding if given a chance.good luck on whatever you choose to do.
2006-11-28 15:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by copwife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to wait to see if its just all the emotions and being overwhelmed with a new baby and 2 other kids.in a couple of months if you still feel the same way, then you will feel better about your decision and be positive you made the right choice.
2006-11-28 06:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's such an a^* then why did you have 3 kids with him?? I think it's probably stress and a new baby talkin, give it a few, but if you still don't feel right about it leave him before the baby is old enough to think it's their fault
2006-11-28 06:45:37 · answer #11 · answered by sbourque79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋