Me and my b/f have been together 7 years, ever since my freshman year of high school, and we still dont live together. Im so sick of living at home, but he doesnt mind it...I dont know what to do? I dont think he'll ever wanna move....he says its cheap that way. What should I do???
2006-11-28 06:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by pregnant with # 2 :-) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wanna get married some day, and have babies...I m not sure if he'll ever be ready for any of that...HELP ME!!
2006-11-28 06:29:38 · update #1
ill move in with you and we can make pretty babies together!
2006-11-28 06:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the only guy you've been with. I realize that you love this guy, but you can also see that he does have some quirks which could result in incompatibility. My advice is to gain your independence. Move out of your parents house, but not with him. If you need to move in with roommates, then so be it, but the important thing is to learn and understand with it really takes to cope on your own. A lot of the people seeking advice here are trapped into a situation because they don't have a way to get out of a bad situation. Once you are on your own, then maybe just date a few other guys. You'll do yourself a huge favor to explore your feelings before you ever contemplate marriage and kids. It is a life changing decision. You're 21, so there is really no rush. The more time you take to truly get a handle on who you are and what is going to make you happy over a life time, the better. If I were you, I'd concentrate on the responsibilities of life and just let nature take it's course in the relationship department...no worries. Good luck and enjoy!
2006-11-28 14:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you both finish college. Right now he is right it is cheaper. If you are ready to move out then move. I hope he isnt the only reason you have not moved. You can get a roommate until he decides he wants to move in with you. Once you move out I am sure he will have a change of heart.
2006-11-28 14:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you havent already..in a comfortable, productive way tell him everything you feel and want and make him know that these things are important to the future of your relationship and if he doesnt seem responsive then you have your answer. then you have to be ready, to stay and be unhappy if he dosent agree or move on and be strong and find what you want out here in the world.you only get one life...
2006-11-28 14:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by rhmn_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...get your own place...he is not the boss of you...you have free will. Maybe if you grow up he will too. Just don't let him move in with you without marriage...why would you marry such a lazy cheap guy? There is so much out there in the world....see some of it ..Trust me...
2006-11-28 14:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should definitely not move in if you want to get married because then it will not happen. I think, no I'm positive it takes men much longer to mature, meanwhile work on you, your dreams goals be less available and lets see what happens.
2006-11-28 17:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by TM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how long does it take for you to hear what he's saying?He's not interested in moving in with you,period.The next move is yours.When you go to a vending machine and put your money in and what you wanted didn't come,would you keep putting your money in ?Well maybe you would because that's what your relationship is like and you keep putting yourself in,waiting for what's never coming out.
2006-11-28 14:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and let him know what you want from the relationship. If he doesn't want the same things, then you need to move on and find someone who wants the marriage and babies and other things you want in life.
2006-11-28 14:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi_kb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to look at it this way- after a certain amount of time, someone KNOWS whether they want to be with you or not. That length of time is overly obvious as to whats to come in the future. Think about yourself- you dont want to be in this situation forever, do you? You aren't happy with this, and should also be a factor in realizing what is to come. You know what you want and you ought to have it. Its only right that you think about yourself and do what YOU want to do. Your time is in your hands, not his!
2006-11-28 14:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what you want to do, if you wanna move out u should he will grow up one day
2006-11-28 14:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by you are my angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋