is my husband on meth? I think I have right to ask him to test?

Question

He has used it before he admitted and i think he still does and i ask him to prove me rong by doing a home test he refused and said i will just have to trust him .his actions tell me hes using it and then he slows down and sleeps all the time and then all at once after sleeping for a week or two hes up and running and doing everything as if its an emergacy again.I think after a year of this I should just give up hes a control freak too

i bought a home testing kit and ask him to do it and showed it to him .it would have been very easy and convienant for him to prove me wrong once and for all (he said his feelings were hurt that I did not believe or trust him)

I WAS SO STUPID TO EVER BELIEVE ANYTHING HE EVER SAID................. I NEVER KNEW WHAT WAS REAL (TRUTH) OR A DRAMATIC STORY,KNOW I KNOW ,IM SO SICK OF THE SCHOOL OF HARD KNOCKS I WISH I WAS AS HEARTLESS AS HE TELLS ME I AM.

Answer 1

You have a right to ask and he has a right to refuse...
You also have a right to divorce him....

Answer 2

I say love him through it, love him with every bit of your being. He needs love more then ever before. I know most people answer this question with "leave him" but really it is not a moral issue. Its an addiction that he would probably rather not be struggling with. Its the times like this that you show the depth of your love. You don't kick a person when they are down, you help them get back up and seek help. Especially if your married, because you vowed to love him through sickness and in health, this is more like a sickness. Its a problem in many families, and we might see better results if people would stand by the side of loved ones, rather then walking away. People do better if they know they are truly loved by others. If you want him, and love him, then let him open up to you about his drug use. He will, if its a safe place to fall.

Answer 3

sadly only 2% of meth addicts ever recover, he's still doing it, you have all the signs, why do you need proof? You already have it. Now it's up to you to decide how to help yourself. If he lies about using, then what else does he lie about? Do you want to live like that? Worse do you want to die because he contracted aids without telling you? Try to be calm and talk with him when he is down, maybe you can convince him to seek help, Don't confront him when he's high, he's liable to strike out at you. Good Luck

Answer 4

There is a difference between drugs and meth. Meth should not be classified as a drug since its actually more of a poison. That sh!t makes cocaine look like powdered sugar. You need to get away from him, hun. I've seen almost everyone that goes down this path eventual destroy their lives before the realize what they are doing.

Answer 5

If he is up at strange hours and not eating and all the signs are there then I would test him you are his wife and you should know meth is a powerful drug that destroys family's I would let him know that ou are only doing it because you care about his well being and want to help him stop using

Answer 6

Sounds like he's on meth or something similar. I would dump the guy and get on with your life if he continues to refuse to be tested. This is a sign that he is likely on the drug.

Answer 7

i`m the guy shes talkin about!!!! for one i never slept for a week , i did lay around in bed for a few days when i was sick. i have not done any meth for about 3 months i have had 2 drug screen tests done at St. Joseph ( job related ) i love my wife and when she asked me to quit , as hard as it is , i did , now i feel she should give me a little trust. so **** you all

Answer 8

Get him some help.Yep that sounds like a meth head.Trust me I was there once(personal experiences). I almost died. Btw Im only 23. If he is beyond help,then get out of the relationship. It would only bring you down.

Answer 9

If you want to know for sure, you can get a home testing kit from Walgreens or other pharmacy store. You take hair from his brush, or get a strand of hair, and test it. I don't know the scematics of it, but you will find out. If the test is positive for any type of drugs, you need to get him into rehab A.S.A.P. What he needs most from you is support. Then if he continues, it is up to you what to do. If you have children, you need to do all you can to protect them. Good luck. :)

Answer 10

Yeah...I'm with Sydney...how could you stay with him?? Ever heard the saying, "Birds of a feather flock together??" By staying with him; you are in effect saying you agree with what he is doing...someone that knows him must know he is a meth head! You know in your heart he is, or you wouldn't be asking this on a public forum! You must be desperate! You are only making yourself look stupid and guilty!

Answer 11

Come on lady! your husband sleeps for a week and after sleeping for a week or two he's about face running all over like a bat out of hall. Yes your husband on something. you really want him to test. stop asking him to. you have to be sneaking about it. wait for awhile. let him thing you gave up the idea. and one day while he's using the bathroom (# 1) go in there act like your doing something then tell him "MOVE MOVE GET OUT MY WAY I HAVE TO USE IT" really act like it because it's going to be your chance to test him. he going to try to flush the tolet but YOU cannot let him you need to tell him don't worry about it "I WILL, JUST MOVE I HAVE TO USE IT GET OUT" then you get his pee. before all that make sure you have something under your sink to put it in. you have to be smart about it,