I caught my husband lying a couple of times about him watching porn. It's odd because we used to be more open with each other before we were married. I admitted to him that I watched porn before, to make him feel okay with it. But he still hides it. Should I be concerned? I feel a little insecure now, because he is hiding it. What are your opinions? Should I let it go? Forget about it, knowing he's watching porn all the time? HELP!
2006-11-28 06:18:31 · 33 answers · asked by beachgirl800 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All men are visual creatures. Most men like to look at the female body, we find it attractive. We do not have sex with a woman based on the way we "feel" about her, it's about the way she looks. Just because your husband is getting the visual stimulation from watching porn, it doesn't mean that he isn't attracted to you. He propbaly lied to you about the porn because you admitted to watching it "to make him feel okay" and he believes that you dissaprove of it and he doesn't want to offend you. So, if you are truly okay with it, let it ride. If not, he'll keep hiding it. Nevertheless, boys will be boys, don't let it get to you.
2006-11-28 06:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, why would he be hiding it , when u said you like it? However, it sounds to me like you have a slight problem, some men like, i said before, get to into porn an eventually, can't have sex with a real woman. I myself do not watch porn, (i know goody, goody) but i had an ex who watched it all the time. Behind my back, porn books etc... to me i thought i wasn't enough, but,, i done everything for him (anything).(I was, an still am an attractive woman) it isn't you, this sounds like a problem that can get out of hand. I speak from experience, the husband i had couldn't get it up because he was in this stuff to long and liked himself (if u know what i mean) to much, i hope i helped just a little. And to they don't like to have to much on time with you they would rater j@@ than have time to please a real woman,
2006-11-28 08:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i caught my man doing the same thing... the truth of the matter is he's a man, he's going to look at other women... be thankful he's just watching porn, he could be cheating. think about what really bothers you about this situation... is it the fact that he's watching porn or is it the fact that he's hiding it from you? is his watching porn affecting you or your relationship in any way? if not i suggest this... let it go, let him know that him hiding it from you bothers you and see if you two can come up with another way to feel more comfortable in the situation.
2006-11-28 06:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me if we have a good, active sex life. I mean I would feel hurt if he didn't want to have sex with me but was looking at porn all the time. Also, it would make me feel uncomfortable if he was viewing stuff out of the norm, like under 18, animals, bondage, and other things. I know there are certain things that turn on my boyfriend about girls in the porn, but we had a long talk about how those girls are basically fantasy and what they look like doesn't apply to how he feels about me. I don't think it is cheating and I don't think it is disrespectful if he tells me this is something he would like to bring into the picture of our sex life every now and then.
2016-05-22 22:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even if men are fully satisfied they still have this insatiable urge to watch porn. Maybe try spicing things up between you two. Its porn he wants then give it to him. Throw on some sexy outfit and maybe suggest you two make a private video and then watch your own homemade porn together. I think this may help.
2006-11-28 06:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Evilish13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be concerned. If I were you, maybe join in watching with him once or twice(if you feel comfortable with it). It is natural for both men and women to watch porn. But by hiding it from you maybe he thinks that you will think that he doesn't find you attractive, or maybe he is trying to find new ways to satisfy you! Don't worry!
2006-11-28 06:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-28 19:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have been going through the same thing, and I really flip flop. Its like if you raise a fuss it just pushes it farther underground. I just told mine that I get funny about it sometimes but if he's going to do it, don't hide it, it just makes it feel all that more wrong ( i.g. trying to erase computer hist and all that). We argued about what is obsession. He begged to differ with me on time spent vs money spent. I think it all depends on the day for me on how much it really bothers me. I guess just be honest.
2006-11-28 06:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he is watching porn and not making love to you, then I would say it was a problem. However; if your sex life is good..what is the big deal?
2006-11-28 06:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course a blonde would ask this question:
Your husband shouldnt be looking at porn if he is married and he lied about it, yeah goodluck. Sounds like he wants to have sex with someone else besides you.
2006-11-28 06:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋