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Question

My sister is 12 years old and she is behaving in a rather strange way. She will have inexplicable mood swings and get angry at me and parents one day, and the next day be perfectly normal. I want to help her but when I ask what the problem is, she tries to avoid the question and she doesn't talk to me anymore like we used to. I feel as if she is getting detached from me and my family. What is going on with her and what can I do to help?

Answer 1

I think something happens around this time. Children break away and find independence or call it puberty. Keep an eye on your sis and make sure she isn't going through anything traumatic or severe depression. It is probably nothing. My 12 year old and I use to be so close. He does the same thing with me with the angry spells and everything I do is annoying to him. Make sure you tell her that no matter what she can count on you and she can come to you about anything. Give her a little space, but do stay in tune to something more serious going on. Get involved in what type of friends she hangs with, her grades/school, etc.

Answer 2

She is going through puberty. I am 13 so I know what it is like. What you need to do is make sure that if you are in an argument to not interupt when she is talking. For then she might be able to tell you something that will help you understand why she is unhappy, and truely try to understand, if you don't understand then once she is finished talking ask what she means. Then ask her if there is any way you can help with the situation. You see then she will feel that she will be able to be more open to you about things. Once you find out why she is unhappy help her to become happy. If she comes to you without yelling and getting really mad and she wants to talk to you about something that means she looks up to you and trusts you, so LISTEN to her. She may get these mood swings for a couple more years to barely never. But you never know so DON'T GIVE UP. Trust me my parents never listened to me when I was angry so I was like that a lot UNTIL my my two older siblings started listening to me. Luckily I stopped so my family is much happier. :-) Give it a try and tell your parents to try it too.

Answer 3

There could be a number of things ranging from puberty (PMS) to drug use...if she doesnt want to talk to u about it then most likely its a girl thing...i did the same thing when i was 12 and it was just the fact that i was going through so many changes..its the time when the world tells u to act like an adult, but ur parents and teachers still treat u like a child...its a difficult time, just be open with her, and let her know ur always willing to listen...i think its just puberty...give her a little space and she'll work through it. However if u have a reason to suspect more then watch from a distance..

Answer 4

If you are like your picture, the best thing that you can do is to be there for her as an important male figure in her life. She is probably going through a lot of self-criticism and self-esteem issues. Support her and make her feel worthy, valued and loved (without wanting anything in return). Girls really need that, at that age and for a long time to come). Hormones really create mood swings and self-doubt. Just be a great (and patient) brother.

Answer 5

Hmm..this sounds how i used to be when i was younger. Honestly i think it is just because she is growing up. I was close to my family, but around middle school, it all stopped. I bet at school she is fine and happy, but this happens only at home. Even just by asking her a simple question such as "how was ur day?", will trigger her to get mad and make a big deal for nothing. I personally think she is okay. Its not sex or drugs, she is just growing up. I got over all of that and now i'm closer to my family than ever and i LOVE my brother. So i dont think theres anything to worry about.

Answer 6

It is most likely puberty and nothing can be done. however if you are worried get her someone outside the family to talk to in case there is something more to it. a change in personality can sometimes means that something has happened that she doesn't feel she can talk to her family about. it could be something as simple as a drama at school or it could be more complicated. it doesn't matter as much who she talks to as long as she talks to someone. this might just give her the courage to talk to you, just make sure it is someone you trust. if your sister is a writer you can also tell her that if she has something to say to write it down and give it to you. its sometimes easier to write something then to say it out loud.

Answer 7

How kind of you to care. I have a thirteen year old she's not that bad yet I heard it gets preety ugly though. When she is in one of her moods just try to be kind to her it hard to be mean and nasty to someone who his kind to you. She has a homone thing going on right now that she has no control of just be patient loving brother that you seem to be and show her some support. And if she's willing try talking to her when she's in a good mood. And pray pray pray.

Answer 8

Having raised two girls, I would say it sounds like she has a severe case of the "twelves." It will pass, but unfortunately, it will likely develop into a nasty bout of the "thirteens." This will continue until approximately 18 when she should slowly start to return to normal.

Answer 9

It's called puberty and sorry to say, but you'll be dealing with this for the next couple of years. Nothing you can do to help other than realize it for what it is.

Answer 10

Don't give up... keep trying....try not asking what the problem is but ask what can you do to help. If all else fails make sure your parents or another trusted adult is aware of what you feel is going on. :o)