My husband told me he hated me after I got a promotion so I left and ended up with a guy who has been my friend for awhile now and well we ended up sleeping together, we both decided it was a mistake and decided to be just friends. Here is where it gets hard, I had a miscarriage yesterday and am 100% sure it was his baby,
My husband has know ideal and I am not sure if I should tell the other guy either. Help!!
2006-11-28 05:46:02 · 27 answers · asked by Tammy R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nah, don't tell anyone. It'll be better this way for them and you.
By the way, dump the ****** husband. Go find someone who cares for you.
2006-11-28 05:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tammy when you said you left does that mean your marriage or just at that moment? Are you going back to your husband? You have some obvious problems with your marriage. First of all I don't think I would tell either your husband or your "friend" about the miscarriage. What would be the point? You need to either end your marriage before you start anymore "friendships" or if you go back to your husband you will most certainly need some counseling because your husband sounds like he has problems with you and your career.
2006-11-28 17:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about the miscarriage, but in all respect your husband got a little threatened by your promotion and said something he probably never meant. Then you go sleep with some guy you are friends with to feel appreciated or to hurt him back. That is so wrong on so many levels. Tell your husband the truth and see what happens. Or you could simply forget about it and try and live a guilt free life. I wish I could help you with this one but I think you already know the answer deep inside.
2006-11-28 13:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for your loss. I do not at all think you should tell - especially if you are back with your husband. All it will do is hurt your husband. My husband had an affair and I didn't find out about it until after it was over - at least 98% of me wishes I never knew it happened. It consumed me. Good luck in whatever you decide.
2006-11-28 14:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband felt insecure that he as the man of the household gets out-earned by his wife. He is just a bit jealous. My suggestion is to have a discussion about what happened. Tell him everything, because if you don't it will only come back to haunt you. If posible, go to mariage counseling. If he loves you for real. He will own up to pushing you away and continue being your husband. It is times like thse that put your marriage to the test.
2006-11-28 14:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by The Harpie King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't tell her husband or boyfriend she lost a baby. Because she doesn't know which one is the father. The baby is gone just keep your mouth shut, probably a good thing that baby isn't in the picture cause you don't know who or what you want. You really mixed up and need to get out without either of them and find someone just like you, a cheater.
2006-11-28 13:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All spilt milk now - nothing you can do about it as long as there are no lasting effects. Telling will just cause drama and unneeded crap all over something that can't be changed no matter how you try. As long as you are emotionally okay go on with your life however if you think you may not be you might want to seek counceling for yourself. Good luck
2006-11-28 13:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU & YOUR HUSBAND ARE SEPARATED,THEN WHY IS IT HIS BUSINESS? THE OTHER GUY DOESNT NEED TO KNOW THAT YOU HAD A MISCARRIAGE AS IT WOULD SERVE NO PURPOSE EXCEPT TO UPSET HIM. IF YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ARE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HIM ABOUT THE MISCARRIAGE AS IT MAY HAVE SOME BEARING ON YOUR LIFE OR MEDICAL CONCERNS DOWN THE ROAD.
2006-11-28 13:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love some of these answers. "Dump him." etc etc. You cheat on him and you should dump him? This is amazing logic.
You have two choices:
Live with this lie and never speak of it. If you are a socialpath you may be able to pull this off.
Tell your husband the complete truth and go to counseling together.
btw this "guy" was never your "friend".
Do not pretend to be friends now.
2006-11-28 14:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the other guy you had a miscarriage and that you plan on discussing your cheating ways to your husband. Then be honest and tell you husband about your little fling. You are wrong would you have wanted someone to do you like that?
2006-11-28 13:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you back with your husband? If you feel you have to, tell the father of the baby. It is his right to know, he was the father. I wouldn't tell your husband though, just tell him about the affair, not all the details.
2006-11-28 13:49:38 · answer #11 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋