I like her(my ex boyfriend's new girl ) alot, we both knew each other before and we get along fine... except last night when my exboyfriend (we were in a relationship for 91/2 years) kissed his new girl, I felt awkward. Is it wrong to feel this way? MY ex and I have been friends for the past 5 years and this is the first time i've seen him with someone else. Is it wrong to feel awkward even though I like the girl and I think they are good together??
2006-11-28 05:34:56 · 13 answers · asked by Sasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm married now, and the more I see my ex kissing his new girl - the more I missed my husband and rushed home to be with him. Seeing my ex and his new girl together made me feel all tingly again - like I was watching fresh young love that my husband and I had when we started dating...
2006-11-28 05:56:15 · update #1
It's completely normal for you to feel uncomfortable initially when seeing the two being intimate. You and your ex have a lot of history, and it feels almost wrong or like you should be mad to see him kissing someone else. These feelings will pass - especially since you like her and approve of their relationship. Just swallow hard and roll with it - you'll get used to it.
2006-11-28 05:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by stargirllll4311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's only natural that after 9 1/2 years that you would feel a little uncomfortable. I know that i would! Are you worried that you still have unresolved feelings for him? I believe that it's just a case of long term relationship memories surfacing at the site of him kissing someone else (who happens to be a friend, no less) Don't over analyze...continue to move forward. Cherish the past but don't let it get in the way of the future! You are completely normal!!!
2006-11-28 05:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Pam C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the very feeling you are referring to. Feels almost like someone sucker punched you in the gut. But it doesn't really come from jealousy. My little girls dad and I split up and it was really ugly for a while, court and all. When he would come to pick her up his 'flavor of the month' would be with him. Didn't bother me until their lips touched. I think it bothered me because I missed him and what I thought we could have had together. After a while, months or so, this 'punch' passed when I would see him. Just takes some acceptance of getting used to seeing some one else on the arm of the one you loved for so long and so hard. I think it helped me to remember a lot of why we broke up too. Also I had a wonderful guy that recgonized the look in my eyes at the time and was extremely understanding to how I was feeling. He just let me ride it out without feeling threatened that I would go running back. Ex and I are still closest of friends, and I worry about him and whether he is happy. There were so many things (depressing) in his world and eventho I knew I would not go back to him it didn't stop my concern for him. Best advice I could give you is if you are in this type of situation again, give a quick turn of your head to something else until it has passed. Knowing it is one thing, seeing it is another. At least until you have gotten used to the idea of his lips touching someone elses. LOL It is up to you but if you are happy for the two of them, I dont think this is something you have too talk to them about (hiding affection in front of you) just have to find something to alert you of why you two are no longer together, smile and don't dwell on it. Like most things in life, this too shall pass. Happy Holidays!
2006-11-28 06:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex-girlfriend has had a big problem with her ex-boyfriend, and decided to tell him about it? Your boyfriend should have stayed clear of her, maybe just said, "Hi, how are you?" and stayed with you. His behavior pattern with her is suspicious. I also noticed you said you were still dealing with his relationship issues. Maybe you should give him some free time to think things over. It all sounds very uncomfortable for you to deal with.
2016-05-22 22:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's probably very natural for you to feel a little uncomfortable when he kisses someone else, no matter how much you like her. I'm betting the more you see them together, the more you will get used to it.
2006-11-28 05:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by LIl One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes when you see an old love especially after so long of being with him those feeling will arise. Just dont let your heart get in the way, i think it is also very nice that you are being mature about it. Most girls would be like dont do that and be stupid. Good luck girl!
2006-11-28 05:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by cutiepie21106 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course not. if i were in your situation, i guess i'd have the same reaction like yours, but that doesn't mean, just because you felt that way, life can happen as it was before. but who knows? anyway, you've probably moved on and i guess this instance just made clear that he has a new life and for you, there are greater and sweeter things to come.
2006-11-28 05:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by ikaboda111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong to have those feelings, you were together for quite a while. You will more than likely always have feelings for him if the relationship ended decently.
2006-11-28 05:39:25 · answer #8 · answered by seaangell304 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's completely normal! it sounds like you guys are handling the whole situation extremely well, but that doesn't mean that you won't have a tiny reaction to seeing him with another woman at some point, even though it sounds like you really are over him.
2006-11-28 05:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly why did you have to be in a situation like that. If you were going out with them, then you should have brought along your new boyfriend also. Sounds like though they were showing off on you.
Sounds weird.
2006-11-28 05:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋