Baby or no baby....Is it a good idea.....?

Question

I'm 20 and live with my boyfriend. We have 2 roomies-my best friend and his brother. My boyfriend and I went to school together and have been together for about 3 years. I have a good job working for his dads company and go I school at night. My question is would having a baby right now be too soon? I can totally handle kids and I definatly feel I'm ready, my boyfriend does too, but by knowing what I just told you do you think it's bad timing or too soon or just right or what?? I'm just curious....

Answer 1

If you have already talked about it with your boyfriend, and both of you are financially stable, then go for it, but both of you have to know for sure that your really ready to have a baby since everything will change for both of you dramatically, no more partying, and theres more responsibility, you have to put your baby first before anything else, so i think you should talk about it again, agree on making any changes if you have to and after all that if you still want it go for it. You also need to start eating healthy, so your body could be prepared for the changes that will be happening. I wish you and your boyfriend the best, good luck!!!!!!

Answer 2

This may not be what you want to hear, but you should probably wait until you at least finish school. My husband is 41 and working on his master's (and works full time) and I am 29 working on my bachelors. We both should graduate in a year. We recently decided to start a family. Neither one of us has any children. We sometimes wonder if we are ready because school takes up a lot of time. Our neighbors just had a baby and it is a full time job. I also wanted to travel before having a baby. So over the past few years we have been to a few countries. I'm sure there is something you would like to do too, before you take on this huge responsibility. Take care of yourself now, have fun, buy a bunch of clothes (if that's your thing) because when a baby arrives, life revolves all around the baby.

Answer 3

My question is why are you in a rush?? Pregnancy is not something you want to experience with roomies. Trust me there will be days when dealing with your BF will be too much let alone roommates. There us never a point in which you are ready. I always thought if I got pregnant I could handle it, but when you see that little pink linetelling you that you actually are preggers it is a totally different feeling. You are only 20, you have plenty of time. You have alot of growing up to do, and trust me what you are feeling right now will be different in six months and even more in a year. Enjoy your life, you should be out and about having fun not thinking about a family!!!

Answer 4

at lease wait until you turn 21 and went out to a club to see if you will become a party animal you are to young this is the time where you should be attending college without a child at home with mom oe dad wait until you are married having patients for other peoples kids is very different from having around the clock patients for a child of your own its just amazing how everytime i brows through here everyone is talking about a support system from family and friends i feel like if you create a child you should be the support system you and the dad not grandma aunts and uncles the two of you dont even have your own place for heaven sake get your own apt. or house with extra room for the baby just wait if the love is there no need to have a baby that is why most teens do have a baby gl

Answer 5

I think you should finish school first my sister was in the same situation and had to quit school cause she had her baby to young, then when she wanted to go back to finish school after she had her baby she was always running into problems with her attendance cause she missed school cause she either didn't have a babysitter or her kid was sick etc..... then she also ran into financial problems, having a baby is not cheap, every dollar you get goes towards a baby, diapers $20/week, formula (if you are not breastfeeding) that is $40/week, toys, medicine, baby food, baby wipes, baby shampoo, lotion, clothes, and lets not forget babysitters or daycare that is a big bill in it's self I pay 800/month while i work to send one of my kids to daycare...... It is hard to have a baby with room mates but then again we don't know how your roommates are???? They may love babies so it all depends..... I have two kids and I am not married, we make things work and we are so happy we have children. No one could tell you when to have a baby if it happen it happens you can't tell the baby it can't come out cause everyone said you aren't ready, every thing always works out in the end and you just have to adjust your life accordingly. But i would wait until school is finished then that would be one thing you wouldn't have to worry about later for finding a job later on to help support your baby when you do decide to have one, but that's my opinion. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Finish school first! Babies take up a lot of your time and it would be much easier on you to wait until then. Also you might want to wait until you guys have a place of your own and have settled into something together. Being married is a plus too but doesn't always happen. I would wait. You're only 20 and you're life could be more established in the next 3 years and you will be glad you waited!

Answer 7

I'm not going to say you are too young, because you really aren't at 20. You sound mature enough to handle a baby. I would commit to marriage first, and then have a baby. Get your own place too. Having 2 others in the house is not a good situation either. Having a new baby is stressful.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 8

your living situation is not ideal just yet, and you are on the young side but if its what you both want then you should do it. and you SHOULD NOT marry just to have a baby alot of babies are from couples not married and have a great life
i cant believe that this day and age ppl still think you should marry to have a baby, i got married at 20 and we already had a baby but we married coz we loved each other not because of our daughter, here we are 9yrs later still married and happy with 4 children and another on the way. it can work out just make sure its what you both want. i dont believe there is ever a right time to have a baby, you know when the time is right for you x x x x
good luck

Answer 9

too soon, first move out of the apt. get your own place w/ you b/f.. then settle down for a while, learn to live just you two together, no one will split rent or bills then. Get a dog or a pet, if you can keep up with your pet then you'll be abel to keep up with yourself. just becareful, look at things money wise and make sure you and your b/f get married first before having any kids, and get a house, like that the child will have parents who are married and will be living in a house and feel comfortable..finish school first as well, like that you'll get a better job and be able to buy stuff the baby needs.

Answer 10

My advice to you, I had the kids before I had the career and the education, and I believe that I took the wrong path.

1 - If you have a child, you don't need roommates, so they both would have to go.
2 - If you have a good career, I'd suggest keeping it up until you have gained knowledge and experience. These days, sometimes experience matters more than education.
3 - My boyfriend is attending college full time and with 2 kids, we both have to continue working full time to afford our monthly bills, which now include daycare while he's at school during the day. You need to finish school. Believe me, you will not regret it.

With school finished and a career developed, you will have more time to focus on raising your children. They need you, not a babysitter while you're at school. =0)

Hope this helps. Oh, and make that man marry you before you have kids!