2006-11-28 05:32:34 · 13 answers · asked by sunshine 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sweety - If your finances can take that kind of a hit, then by all means, stay home if you want to. You will know if you want to after a few weeks with the baby.
If you are asking if it will cripple your child if you go to work. No...just find someone loving that YOU completely trust to care for the baby while you work. GBU
2006-11-28 05:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you feel secure enough to stay home with your new baby - and that you find it fulfilling. I feel that when you don't contribute financially to your household that you lose a little "power" in the relationship. You also lose your autonomy. You will have no money that is your own and this can sometimes bring on bad feelings and arguments with your spouse.
You will just need to weigh the pros and cons and do what YOU feel like doing. I had a hard time staying home with my children because I missed the stimulation of the workplace and being with adults. There is no right or wrong. I have three daughters (teenagers) who all went to daycare and all turned out smart and poised. Do what your heart tells you to do regardless of anyone elses opinion. There seems to be a little war going on between the stay-at-home mommies and the go-to-work mommies. Both are good choices. Just be glad that these days you have the option.
God bless!
2006-11-28 13:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel? How does your partner feel? If you are working now, what will the impact of you staying home on your household finances?
IF it were me, and your finances are ok, I'd stay home. Infancy is so short, and it's such a wonderful time to bond with your baby and take a breather. Plus you have a lot of physical recovery to do, not to mention emotional adjustment to your new role as mommy. Later on, you can always return to work if you wish or your household needs the income.
One way to look at it as a window of opportunity. Some are only open a short time, others for much longer times. Generally, you take advantage of the ones that are open just a short time now, and take advantage of the ones that are open for a longer period later on because that can wait.
You can have it all--but sometimes it's best not to have it all at once.
However, if you find yourself unhappy and frustrated staying at home, it's just not your personality, than please do get childcare and go back. The baby will not be happy if mom is frustrated and unhappy.
2006-11-28 13:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of factors involved, but the bottom line to me when i returned to work, was money. if staying home will cause no financial burden, then you are probably better off staying home for a while, however, if you also have a great job & went to school to get a degree, you may not want to give that up - either way works, in my opinion - there are plenty of stay at home moms who yell and scream at their kids all day long & do not truly enjoy them. i always worked, but truly enjoyed my children and being with them - still do & they're teenagers.
2006-11-28 14:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by livetall1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your personality. if u guys don't need the second income. i see no harm in trying it out for a while and see if its something u enjoy.
the decision is not permanent so if u decide that u hate being a housewife than u can always look for a new job or see if your current job will take u back. if u do decide to be a housewife, just take like one class per year just to keep your skills up to date. it will look good if in 5 years u go back to work and u show what u have been doing to keep your skills up to date.
2006-11-28 13:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to stay home with your child, my advise is to stay at home. I am a first time, stay home mom of 11 month old twins (boy and girl). My husband and I decided that I would stay home with them. It is the best job I have ever had. I don't want anyone else raising my children, and I want to be the one to be their first teacher and to see all of the wonderful, new things they do. I will probably not have anymore children, these two are my heart and soul. So, even if you have to make a few sacrifices with your finances, do so, it is so worth it to stay home. If you send your child to day care, they are always at risk of constantly getting sick from other kids. You will constantly worry if he/she is being cared for, if he/she is crying or needs you. Also, the COST. Don't let anyone discourage you from the most important job of your life....Good Luck! Contact me if you'd like.
2006-11-28 13:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy and comfortable and, if you have a husband/bf, what you mutually decide. For your consideration: If you decide to stay home, you might want to consider working at least awhile after the child/children have "flown the coup". You have to have so many quarters paid in to draw Medicare (unless it's a case in which the person could medically never work/had to stop working for medical reasons).
2006-11-28 13:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to stay home then do it. Your child will learn so much in the first few years, so it's always good to have that time with her/him. You'll never get that time back. I went to work after they were all in kindergarten, then I worked at their school. It worked out great for us. No babysitters or child care of any kind. They all turned out to be good people. Good Luck.
2006-11-28 13:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by JENNY J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u and ur husband financially set? Then stay home if not wait the appropriate time and go to work and help out to make it easier for both of u and the entire household.
2006-11-28 14:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can, I would stay home. I was an at home mom for 4 yrs. It's hard work, but your kids are only kids once.
Kids ages 2 and 4
2006-11-28 13:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by JAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋