Is it hard having someone else watch your baby? Do you wish you had waited until you were more finically stable, so that maybe you could stay home with your baby? I guess what I’m asking is: would you rather be...
A: 20-24 and start a family sooner, but have to work because financially you cannot stay home, but maybe someday you will be able to.
B. 25-30 and be more finically stable and be able to stay home full time with your kids, but it would be hard for you to wait because you want kids really bad.
2006-11-28 05:27:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Very hard decision I agree. I had my first when i was 20 and have to work. I have it good because my Mom lives very close and keeps him for me while I work. I hate not being home with him and some days its very hard to leave him. But, as my mom always told me and still does, you may never be financially stable. You never know what curves life will throw you and in todays society its hard to provide for a family without both parents working. I am just sure to spend every night playing with him and weekends are all his. My son is very attached to me and everyone can tell that he doesnt go without my attention even though I work. Holding a job and being mom is tough, but it is possible to maintain a good relationship with your child even though you work. Best of luck with your decision.
2006-11-28 06:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My pregnancy wasn't planned but more than less was a blessing from above..I wasn't planning on becoming pregnant until later in my life but it happened and now i wouldn't change a single thing! I signed a loan for a new car, got a couple of credit cards and so on so I wasn't financially stable for a baby but I did have my fiance's help and it worked out. I am going to have to go back to work at least 2-3 times a week while my fiance can watch her to pay the bills I have..I would stay home to watch my little girl grow up but at the same time I am bored and cannot wait to socialize again..I wouldn't have it any other way and I do not wish that I was older. This gives my daughter the experience to grow up with me and see life as I see it..I will work through whatever obstacles come my way as money isn't everything..
2006-11-28 07:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by rkonkin226 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter which you chose, things happen and times change. There is no guarantee that you will be financially stable if you wait. I think the bigger issue is whether you have HELP! If you have a supportive family (and maybe a family member that can watch the baby??) That makes a huge difference. 20-24 is a little young. I was 17 when I had my daughter and didn't have any support. That is really tough. Kids become your life. You can't just pick up and go when you want to. If you want to go to college - you can - but you will have to work too. That is cutting into your time with your kids. It's better to get that out of the way first. And no matter how badly you want kids, they drive you crazy, having a partner around to hand them off to is really nice. And it helps you keep your sanity.
2006-11-28 05:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For each family it will be different. I stayed home until just this sept when my youngest started first grade. I am now working part time so I am still home when my girls are home. Its been a nice transition for me and the extra money has been fun! But if I felt my work load was interfering with my family I would quit and return to being a stay at home mom. My mother stayed home until I was in college! I was an only child and she was there to wake me for school every morning, fix me a nice healthy breakfast and see me off and when I came home she was there waiting. So with each family set up its different. Some moms return to work when their children are 6 weeks old and some never return to work.
2016-03-28 22:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 with a son who is 6 months old. I dont know that you are ever really financially ready for a baby but you have to make sacrafices. I work because I have to. My sister watches my son so I am lucky because its family. However there are days when I miss being with him and wishes I was the one home with him. It's hard to make it on 1 income these days. With all the rising costs of everything a lot of households need 2 incomes.
2006-11-28 05:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter either way because I don't want to be a stay at home mom. I have 2 girls and I am 25. I stayed home for about 8 months with my first and I never want to do it again. I would rather work!!! I love my girls but I would rather earn my own money than wait for a man to pay for everything.
2006-11-28 05:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by ncc742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started out young and at first had to take them to a daycare I didn't like that at all. Now I have a 5 and 8 yr old and trying for another. I go to school full-time online and work part time at night when my husband is home. The only people who watch my kids are family.
2006-11-28 05:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by nicsgirlus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose A. I wish I had started earlier, being 31 with a 21 month old. I see it as now, I am a stay at home Mom-working my *** off before getting there & I damaged my body working for a company that only looked out for them. I would of loved to have finished school & got a degree that benefited my life instead of working O.T. & killing my body.
Needless to say I do have family that helps watch my son, wouldn't have it any other way (My Grand-Parents). These 1st couple years I will never get back nor experience again with him. When he get's old enough for school, then I may get back out there, but for now, my butt is staying home with him!!!!
2006-11-28 06:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by yu247365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're already pregnant it is too late to ask the question.
B. I waited until I was 30 and had my masters degree. Now I can work from home when I want and be with my kids.
What is the point in having children if you have to hand them off to someone else to raise? If you will be able to stay home "someday" then wait until "someday"
It would be hard to wait, and it was, but no harder than being stretched to thin between work and home and being wife/mommy/professional.
Trust me, if it isn't too late WAIT. If you are pregnant....you'll make it work. A lot of my friends work and their children and they are quite happy. I could never give up all the firsts I get to be part of and being the mommy helper in school, and teaching him to read and write, going to the library, playgroup.......
I'm thankful I waited and I didn't have to.
2006-11-28 09:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 25 and had our daughter at 24. I am currently a stay at home mom. And though we can afford it....and I love it...I regret it. I have ZERO adult time. My day is completely dependent upon my daughter. Naps, crankiness, cold, whatever her needs may be that day. My husband works and thinks that since he is the only bread winne rin the home that he does not have to help with our daughter what so ever. He holds her and plays iwht her but comes and goes and does what he pleases. He never stops and says...oh whats best for Katie?
I love being at home and being responsible for teaching outr daughter new things. I love that she looks to me and only me for comfort but at the same time that is a double edge sword. I cant drop her off at any ones home and have them babysit for a night out because she isnt happy. And cries the whole time.
To answer your question...to each his own. Some women are meant to be stay at home mommies and others are not. I thought I wanted to be one...but seven months in I am ready to throw in the towel.
Good luck!! And dont worry. Everything happens for a reason.
2006-11-28 06:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by *Erin* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋