It was my finaces birthday lastweek and his ex girlfriend texted him to greet him happy birthday, when she knows very well that he is already engage, and saying that she's happy that he has moved on, when he was the one who broke off with her.
2006-11-28 05:25:30 · 15 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds innocent, unless he is texting her back. My ex wife still wishes me Happy Birthday but we do have kids together. Unless you have some other reason to be worried I would say let it go.
2006-11-28 05:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Chill! When you dealing with a situation like this you must have your wits about you. First things first. Lets not make things more devious than they are. The worst you can do is make an issue where there isn't an issue. The only person stressing is you. You gotta be cool cause if you make it to big of a deal you are gonna risk letting her know she can get to you and believe me if she realizes you worried about her she gonna really lay it on thick. Let it ride cause it ain't no never mind anyway. I figure you maybe don't like the chic based on your wording but keep that stuff to yourself. You don't wanna come off as a jealous woman to your man especially if he hasn't given you reason to be suspicious of him. So just let it go and marry your soon to be hubby. A few text messages from some ex is hardly need for an all out frontal attack.
2006-11-28 05:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you say something, all you will have done is acomplished how she sees you. an insecure b**ch. that's all. and no woman is completely happy to see an ex move on regardless of who broke it off. if she was really happy, she would never contact him again. that's just how it is.
if you don't feel comfortable with her texting you, tell your fiance. it's his responsibility to make an effort to make you feel comfortable with your relationship. and just as he has the right to voice an issue that makes him uncomfortable, you have that same right. it's up to the partner to take the other's feelings into consideration. But when you bring it up, don't be accusing. do keep in mind it's not like he hid it from you. (or did he? cuz then that's a whole other issue)
2006-11-28 05:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can remain friends after a relationship ends. Why are you threatened by her texting him to say happy birthday? That's a simple little thing. When she starts calling all the time and showing up at his house, then let the sirens go off. But then it should be him you go to and not her. Otherwise, let it go. It's not worth the drama.
2006-11-28 05:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by I'm his princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know this girl? It sounds pretty innocent to me. Unless you have reason to believe she's after your guy, I wouldn't worry. My ex boyfriend lives in the apartment below my husband and I. The two of them are great friends. My husband still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend too, she does live in another country, and they don't exactly write a fury to each other. I'd say unless there is a lot of messages going on back and forth, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you are concerned, talk to your fiance about it.
2006-11-28 09:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Formula pay attention, An Ex=past, u=present OK. some times
we get rid off problems=ex's, but sometimes we make mistakes.
and some times we just realize we r still friends, because love is clean any way's the point is u r insecure about ur self with him be your self try not to compete and relax babe! you r looking for love so let it be, dont forced do your best dont play those stupid games.. god Love's you. think.........
2006-11-28 05:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Arutnev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 21:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be as nice as pie to her with a big huge smile next time you see her and tell her thank you for sending him that text on his b-day and that you thought it was so nice. That way she knows you know she sent it and aren't intimidated by it cause you know you have the prize and it looks good to your fiance that you are such a nice person and not jealous. Nobody needs to know why your being so nice. Keep your friends close and your emenies closer.
2006-11-28 05:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!!.....She may be doing it to F*ck with you! Talk to him first about it. If he takes it lightly than get his attention by asking him how he would feel if you were still talking to any of your ex's. 2-wrongs dont make it right, but sometimes with men you have to get ugly before they get it!! He is the primary key, so make your point to him first! If it continues after you talked to him about it, change his number and if she is still calling than where else would have she gotten it from? if that doesnt work than tell her boyfriend about it, or GRAB HER HAIR FROM THE BACK, AND DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT!
2006-11-28 05:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to realize that your fiance is the one who gave her his phone number. He is also the one who needs to inform her to stop calling. If you do it, it will sound like you are jealous of her. If he truely loves you then it shouldn't be a problem for him to tell her to leave him alone. By the way, if he argues about this you need to leave him. Thank you and good luck.
2006-11-28 05:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋