why do i keep feeling like i need a baby?

Question

all the time i get the feeling that i want 2 be pregnant, and i want a baby , and i no its stupid because im 15, 16 in 5 wks. am i being pathetic? i sometimes pretend to strangers i am actualy pregnant by pushing out my tummy and says some symptoms! any advise?

from all the results i have had from you guys , i cant thank you enough, bt i noticed a lot of you were saying look after a relives baby or babysit, well i ahve 4 lil bros n sis all uunder7 n i near enough brought 2 of them up on my own since they were born, i was up with them at night wen crying, being sick or just wouldnt sleep, iv fed them n washed them , just like a real mum and i no its tiring but it hasnt put me off or stoped my wanting for a baby!!! i have a job to take up my thinkin time of it, n im predicted really good grades for skl so i suppose i have a good future but it still doesnt stop my wanting for a baby, i still long for one all the time .

Answer 1

Are you lonely and in need of attention? Nothing will get you attention like being pregnant. However, that is the last thing that you should want at this stage in your life. Immerse yourself in positive activities and stay in school. You can have a baby after you graduate from medical school.

Answer 2

Maybe you love the feeling you get when you look after someone, they look up at you and you know your doing a great thing by showing them so much love and support. If you had your own baby this feeling could continue and you would have someone to love and look after forever, as you say you know how hard it can be too and when you are the Mum there isn't an escape, you don't get days off or many breaks, even when your not with them your thinking about them and worrying about them.
Having two I know the ups and downs that are ever present.
Buy the sounds of it you could do really well in a career involving children, teaching, nursery nurse, child psychology, supper nanny! Any of these would be so rewarding and at the same time you need experience life for you, go to college or uni and live life and have fun, meet other people from all over, you could even work abroad with kids, the possibilities are endless for you.
I really hope you give life a chance before you settle down to having babies, you life doesn't stop but it certainly changes and you might have to wait a very long time before you get the chance to be your own person.
Good luck xx

Answer 3

your not the only one love! its normal to be a that age and all you think about is wanting a baby...ive been there myself and im still going through it now...its not a pleasant experience...but perhaps looking after someones baby for the weekend might put you off...i had an electronic baby from school for the weekend but it didnt put me off in fact its made me want a baby even more! pretending your pregnant isnt good because it gives you a bit of a name and if you ever did get pregnant what makes you think people are goin to believe you after pretending in the past. no of course your not being pathetic im 16 myself and all i think about is having a baby and i shouldnt but i try to tell myself a baby aint the answer at this moment in time! but like i said try being with someone that has a baby for the weekend and see if that puts you off...if it dont then erm....just do what im doing and wait for the right moment and make sure you are 100% sure before making a life changing decision. xxx

Answer 4

You're not being pathetic, you may well feel like something is missing and for you that idea has gone baby-shaped. It's good that you realise you're far too young to actually be having a baby but you do need to have a good think about what could be missing from your life. I'm guessing there is some sort of fulfilment that you would like and obviously the mother-child relationship càn be (not saying is) enormously fulfilling. Why don't you project some of the affection you obviously long to give and volunteer, help out in childcare, help out elderly people or animals.

Answer 5

Please dont think of having a baby at your age, I had my first son at your age although I love him and wouldnt be without him, I lost so much of my freedom and my life while all my friends stayed on at school or went to college I was stuck with a crying baby dirty nappies and bottles to make I dont know who cried the most me or the baby! I then went on to have my other children at the age of 22 then one at 25 then I had twins at 28 and enjoyed them as babies much more because I was older had more sense and didint feel like I had missed out on anything with those. Babies are lovely cute etc.. but they take a lot of looking after and you give them a lot of love but you dont get a lot back in the first few months there very demanding, It also helps if you have a supportive partner I am lucky in that respect good luck i'm sure youl make the right decision

Answer 6

firstly don't have a baby!

i have a 7 month old and trust me it's really hard being a parent and i have the support of my partner of 4 years. yes i love him to bits and i was ready but at 15 there's no way you have enough life experience to support a child either financially or emotionally.

young mothers can cope but do you really know who you are yet?
i look back at who i was at 15 and i'm completely different now and i'm 23. at 15 i didn't ever want kids lol

please do yourself a favour and have a life first, and stop pretending if i met you and you said you were pregnant i'd pity you, because your actions are still those of a child not an adult.

Answer 7

hi just read ur q.s and trust me looking after siblings or other peoples babies is not the same when you have your own theirs no rest no just going out with your mates no going on holiday money is always tight.i fell pregnant at 16 by mistake,so i no exactly what it feels like to be a young mum.plus my little girls dad left and never supported her in any way.my sound advice to you would be go have a life before you settle down having a baby is a lot of responsibility.i have a sister the same age as you and this is exactly what i told her,if you still feel like this in a couple of years when you've lived a bit and are in a steady relationship go for it until then enjoy your youth!

Answer 8

Just slow down honey. I have been with my man for almost 10 years ( since highschool) and we finally had our first a year ago. It is great that youwant to have a baby and I'm sure that you will make a great mom but just wait. Finish school first. If you want to feel more needed or want something to take care of try a puppy or a plant. Babysit a few kids overnight and tell me if you really think you are ready.

Answer 9

Maybe you have a need to feel loved. Just realize that it should not come from a baby. Try talking to someone about how you feel. It sounds like you have low self esteem. Try counseling or talking to a trusted adult. At least you realize that now is not the time in your life to have a baby. Think how selfish it would be to the child to bring it into the world when you, yourself are still a child.

Answer 10

You are not pathetic. Sounds like you need to see a counselor who deals with this sort of thing. Talk to your parents about it too. Go visit a daycare and spend the day with the babies and you'll get an idea of what it all entails in taking care of a baby. Keep in mind they don't stay babies for long! You have to take care of them until they are old enough to take care of themselves. It's a lifetime commitment. You have to be able to feed and clothe them and tote them around to the doctor appts., school, school activities, the mall etc. It is a huge responsibility. You won't have time for friends. Your baby will need you 24/7. Please take care of yourself and get counseling to find out what is really going on and what you are really needing in your life.