seems friendly enough, but question motives
2006-11-28 04:47:19 · 16 answers · asked by perplexed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not a good sign...
Bad idea...Bad news..
Do not go along with this without protest...
2006-11-28 04:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if this man truely loved you then he would have included you in the meeting. Sounds like he is quite interested in what could have been. You need to be very worried. Inform your husband that you are very uncomfortable with this situation and you would appreciate being invited along. If he loves you and is proud of you, this shouldn't be a problem. However, if he finds excuses then he is planning on making a night of it. Be prepared, this could go either way. Good luck.
2006-11-28 13:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex wanting to spend time alone with your spouse?
That's a "no way in Hell" scenario for me. If your spouse has any sense in his head, he wouldn't even *consider* it. How disrespectful to you - seriously.
I don't go anywhere with anyone of the opposite sex alone. My husband only gets rides to triathlons the morning of with a co-worker if I'm not going with him.
I would tell your husband this is not going to be good for your relationship - and honestly, I'd question *why* he feels the need to "be alone" with her. Does he need "closure?" Write a freakin' letter.
Set him straight - and quickly.
2006-11-28 12:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure why they need time alone??? I can see her coming by and having drinks or dinner but not with just your hubby. Your two are a pair now. How would he feel if the shoe were on the other foot. Maybe you have an ex you could set her up with.
2006-11-28 12:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stand up and say hell no.. Not until all three of you sit and spend time together do you let your spouse go out with an ex.. Somethings always lingerin in the background. And besides it gives you time to feel out if there are any hidden agendas behind the meeting. If they say no to the three of you hanging out. SOMETHINGS WRONG!!!
2006-11-28 12:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your spouse is agreeing to this, he's an idiot. He's violating the trust that you've built. The only exception I could see for this is to have coffee and discuss children they had.
Other than that, it should include you because it would be social.
If she has problems, there are a lot of therapists in the book.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 12:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be very suspicious of this. He should limit the meeting to a public place and limit the duration. There's no reason why they cannot chat quietly in a restaurant or coffee shop for an hour. You could wait at a different table.
Perhaps there is some unfinished business between them. Maybe she wants to apologize. Maybe she wants him back.
Let him know how feel. Don't be afraid to jump in and defend your territory.
2006-11-28 12:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sit your guy down and let him know that in no uncertain terms is he ever to be alone with her. Emotions do come back, even years later if they broke up amicably. My fiance's ex does that to me too, but I finally went to her, ask her motives and when she said she knew their divorce was finally going to start going through the courts, she was having 2nd thoughts. Only thing that keeps me from worrying too much is I'm the one wearing the engagement ring, while she is waiting for the sheriff to bring her the court date and HE told her that there was no hope in hell of them getting back together, but he did it while I was with him so she couldn't mistake any of his words.
2006-11-28 12:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to question the motives. Now you need to talk to your spouse, and tell him that you are not comfortable with this situation, and you want him to remember he is married now. And it is you or her, but you do not want him to see her again.
2006-11-28 13:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Totally unacceptable. Is your spouse going along with that? It isn't the ex you need to have concern about it is your spouse.
2006-11-28 12:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Trying to relive the past, sounds to me. I would not want to be around my ex alone. Don't get me wrong, we get along but why be alone with her when I'm happy with my girl now. Whatever she wants to talk about we can all discuss together. Want to reminisce? Do it while my fiance' is present.
2006-11-28 12:51:13 · answer #11 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋