There is a lady that is pushing my friend and her ex to get counseling, because she is pregnant and not married. This man is the father of her other children. This lady (lets call her Jan) basicallly told my friend that the baby is a mistake, and that she is concerned about the choices that my friend and her ex made. Basically Jan is not going to help my friend do anything unless they go to christian counseling.. Now my friend is thinking about having an abortion. What should my friend tell Jan? My friend is not going to go to church or go to counseling, just to have help from Jan. I do not like the fact either that my friend was all excited about the baby and now considering abortion because of JAN.
2006-11-28 04:45:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank-you for the answers so far. Very good advice. No she did not have those thoughts before talking to Jan.
2006-11-28 06:01:33 · update #1
tell her that she doesnt need jan as a friend if she is telling her that its a mistake that shes pregnant... tell her to tell jan to mind her own business and tell your friend that she shouldnt get an abortion she would regret it after she does it it hurts more having an abortion then losing a friend
2006-11-28 04:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by jennifertrinitysky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to make the right decision for herself and not for Jan.Did she have thoughts of having abortion prior to speaking to Jan? You say that Jan is Christian?! How Christian can she be when she is judging your friend and calling the pregnancy a mistake? The circumstances surrounding the pregnancy may have been a mistake, but the baby is not. Your friend should tell Jan thank you for her interest but that she will make her own choices.
2006-11-28 13:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know "Jan" it might be easier to talk to her yourself or have someone else do it. Your friend sounds like she's been through enough without having to confront Jan. Remind Jan (wheather she is family or friend of the pregnant girl) that she is NOT helping the situation AT ALL! If she cares at all about your friend that she should be more worried about the relationship she might be hurting. Your friendneeds support in her own desisions. That it's not Jan's baby, and from the moment she got pregnant, she needed people to be supportive rather than condesending. Good Luck.
2006-11-28 12:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your help or show her other places that she can get it. It doesn't all have to be from Jan. Her ex should also step in since this is his child too.
2006-11-28 12:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by tinakay_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell Jan or whomever to leave my friend alone. tell her that she has no right to judge anyone. i would try to help my friend and tell my friend that she is a good person and will make a great mother. tell her that her baby loves her already and needs her to take care of it. good luck.
2006-11-28 12:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to make up her own mind. She is a mother already and has to take on the responsibilities for her children and herself. She shouldn't need anyone else's opinion to make up her mind.
Friends come and go but you have to live with yourself your entire life. Your friend needs to follow the path SHE chooses.
2006-11-28 12:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋