Throughout the few partners that I have had, I have never been able to have an orgasm. I have tried many different positions, made sure that there was foreplay before I had sex, and listened to tons of advice as to how to solve this problem. This just doesn't make any sense to me and I want to be able to enjoy sex, not just lie there and fake. Any ideas???
2006-11-28 04:36:03 · 10 answers · asked by Reese0218 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Orgasms with sex didn't happen for me until I got a little older, more comfortable with my own body, in tune with my own sexuality, and finding what worked for me and going after it, and practice of course.
Read this, good advice:
http://www.talksexwithsue.com/femaleorgasm.html
Also, just my opinion, but stop faking it. You don't do you or your partner any favors by faking it.
2006-11-28 04:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be able to have any orgasms until you have your first one. A lot of times, women need to give themselves an orgasm before anyone else can. Try masturbation and try toys and if even you can'tgive yoruself an orgasm you might be one of the few people in the world that just can't have one. Another reason may be because you've never had real and true feelings for the people you've been with.
2006-11-28 04:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by snowbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is a good way to have an orgasm and it seems to be much stronger through oral sex. I do not know about the different position. Once you find the spot that is where you or your partner needs to concentrate on. It will come so to speak. Anyway, do not give up. Vibrators work too just be sure to get one with the little tickler on it, relax, and take your time. Good luck because an orgasm is...........priceless!!
2006-11-28 04:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well maybe the men you have been with arent really doing it for you. with me i usually dont orgasm at all with just sex unless he is really really good. so with me there has to be oral first other wise when he is done i break out my toy to finish the job. and never fake it if you do this once then he thinks what ever he was doing you liked it. so what i would do hopefully you are 18 lol id hate to give some 14 yr old advice about this. but what i would do is buy a toy you can buy them over the net if to embarrassed to go in an adult store to get on and play with it and experiment with what you like and then you will have learned more about you and your body and what makes you orgasm. and there is nothing wrong with knowing what you like. there are all kinds you can get the ones with the base on it so you can experimant on top positions as well as on your back,on your side, up on your knees. hope this helps it did me
2006-11-28 04:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try masturbating...experiment. That usually works for most women that have a hard time getting an orgasm. Find out what you like and try to do the same with your partner. That might help you a lot!
Good luck.
2006-11-28 05:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking about it waaayyyy too much. I bet that is your #1 problem. If there is anyway you can just relax while having sex & not think about when or how or if you are gonna orgasm, you will have a better chance of doing so.
2006-11-28 04:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you can't achieve an orgasm, its because your thinking to hard on it. Just relax I used to have the same problem...Yeah the sex was good but my mind and body were not cooperating...While having sex with my husband I masturbate and just think of him doing me and other things that I wouldn't mind have him do to me. It turns him on and it turns me on knowing that he is enjoying watching me do this. Just expand your mind and don't concentrate so hard, you'll achieve your orgasm.
2006-11-28 04:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you orgasm when you masturabate? If yes, then you just need to keep trying. Have if go down on you, until you fell like your ready to explode, then get on top of him and finger your clit while you ride him
2006-11-28 14:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women can only achieve the big O through oral pleasure! Try, Try again, it's in ya!
2006-11-28 04:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a pocket rocket like this one http://www.adameve.com/vibrators/ae-waterproof-pocket-rocket-pc-6890-3.aspx?cm_ven=OVR%2cOVR%2cOVR%2cOVR&cm_cat=Top%2cTop%2cTop%2cTop&cm_ite=sex+toy%2csex+toy%2csex+toy%2csex+toy&cm_pla=PPC%2cPPC%2cPPC%2cPPC
and use it while he does his duty....try using it on your own first...cuz you need to know how to use it so that you know how to "work it" lol
2006-11-28 07:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋