Serious question take time to answer please...Why get married if your going to cheat on the person?

Question

Please take time to answer.
Why do you want to get married,then turn around and cheat on them?

Answer 1

If you plan on cheating, then you certainly should not get married. Divorce is not easy. It's hard on everyone involved, and cheating is enough to cause divorce. Only marry for love...nothing else. It won't work any other way.

Answer 2

I completely agree with your question (it seems more like a hypothetical question than an actual question)- If people are unable to be faithful to their partners as just a boyfriend/girlfriend, I believe they are likely to cheat as a spouse. I don't believe these people should get married. I think that most of the people that cheat are always looking for something more that they will never find in a relationship. Basically, today, they could tell their partner that they want (just an example) hugs to make them happy, then they get hugs, the next day, they want something else. And it is continually changing what they would want to keep them happy and keep them from straying. But most partners can't keep up with those demands of cheaters, so that is why they stray. NO ONE will EVER find a partner that is 100% of what they are looking for, and if they can't accept them the way they are, they should definately not marry them, because if they find a partner that is 90% of those things, they may still be looking for the other 10% in someone else. It is shiesty and all, but thats the reality of it and I never understood it. I have always been 100% faithful to every partner I have been with, and don't ever think that will change.

-EA

Answer 3

There is no reason to get married if you're going to cheat on the person. This is especially horrible if the cheater was already in the grips of another relationship before making the marriage commitment because they know full well that their heart isn't totally into it. Sometimes though, people get married with the best intentions, and then "something," happens and they allow themselves to be pulled another way. This is sad and unfortunate. Either way, serious decisions need to be made as to the future of the marriage. Do you "forgive and forget, or just forget & get divorced?"

Answer 4

i don't know why but i know it's wrong. i guess it just one of those things that happen. your not expecting to cheat on the one you love, but then you have an argument and you hate them at the moment or you think it's not working out an you cheat on them. it's not like you don't want to get married and live happily ever after, cause all girls do. it's mostly about being scared, i really love my bf and where marrying pretty soon, but i admit i will never, ever cheat on him again, cause it would kill him and i love him so much. if this happened to you, all i can say is if the girl or guy came back and still wants to marry give them a chance, people do make mistakes ( i'm not talking if they are cheating multiple times) just work it out and hopefully it never happens again. cause marriage is based on communication and respect for each other.

Answer 5

Personally, I can figure out why you would do that. Still I know some people find marriage not what they expected. Others love the one they marry, but are so insecure that they need to cheat with other people to feel wanted or needed. Finally, you have some people who are just cruel and cheat to hurt their mate. I think they are the worse of them all.

Answer 6

I agree with this marriage does not last these days because of adultery. However, I know plenty of happily married couples that would not cheat on their spouse. I would like to still get married someday but I'm willing to hold out to meet the right, good person even if it takes several years.

Answer 7

ummm.....i could say the two are the two sharing some blame right here. in case you knowingly date, sleep, etc etc with somebody you already know is married then that's particularly undesirable and morally incorrect. in case you're married and you made that dedication and promise to hold real in basic terms onto your different 0.5, you're only as plenty a airborne dirt and airborne dirt and dust bag because of the fact the subsequent. In the two case, the cheater and the cheatee deserve eachother, they are the two liars and have no morals, onto the subsequent individual. WIth extra desirable than 1000000000 human beings on the planet, why waste time attempting to repair something as quickly as we've numerous extra issues in this existence to do?

Answer 8

If someone is the kind of person that does or knows they will cheat on thier spouse,then marrige is not the answer as it will hurt both people at some point in time.Marrage is only for people who know they are not going to cheat,and beleive it or not,there are people out there that do not cheat.

Answer 9

Very valid point that many should indeed look at.

Afterall, the taking of the vows is commitment to one another on all levels.

Does not mean you do not have a life - just a life shared with ONE.

The seriousness of marriage and its promises has too easily been forgotten or assumed there is always an option out.

If you start out looking at the way out, you never committed.

Answer 10

You don't go into a marriage thinking you'll cheat on them. There are so many reasons people cheat and it is especially sad if you're married and have children!

1. One person is hardly home
2. one person flirts too much
3. one person is on drugs
4. one person is abusive (physically or mentally)
5. one person doesn't want to have sex often
6. long relationships tend to get boring (only some)
7. one person gained a lot of weight
8. one person doesn't care the way she looks & dresses
9. one person doesn't shower often enough
10. too many children can make a person cheat!