With all the seductive videos and television shows today, how do you define beauty to girls 8-15 years of age?

Answer 1

I wish someone would have told me when I was in that age bracket that beauty is not defined by a girl's peers at school and their opinions of each other. I was a shy, awkward preteen and didn't grow out of that until almost sixteen, and looking back, I see how much I stifled my personality to be like the crowd, and it didn't even work--they were still mean. Beauty is so much more than vapid Britney Spears-style looks, it involves individuality, strength of character, and confidence. The women who turn heads today aren't necessarily model gorgeous. They more often are women who have a purpose and work to achieve that purpose, and they bear themselves with dignity and self-esteem that makes you wonder what it is about them that's so special. Girls who are dealing with the hell of middle school should hear from their older counterparts that it won't matter ten years down the line how pretty you looked in seventh grade. What will matter is how you develop your talents, personality, and inner beauty, and soon people who really matter will notice you for who you are, and they will see the beauty, inner and outer, shining through. You'll have your day!

Answer 2

The first step is to turn off the TV!

I am dealing with this, but with a younger girl(5). Her older sister has naturally curly blond hair, blue eyes, and is tall, thin, and has model looks. My five year old, though, has thin, stringy, dark hair, hazel eyes, and is short. But guess which one gets all the attention from others? The 5 year old is outgoing, friendly, and has a wonderful personality. My older daughter is a loner. I point this out all the time to my younger daughter. She is pretty, but her personality is what makes her shine. I'm sure you can find examples of this same thing, just take a look at your daughters friends!!

Steer her towards activities that looks don't matter in. Martial arts, horseback riding, painting, and many others will help her develop attractive qualities, that have nothing to do with how she looks.

Also, I also point out attractive qualities in real women that we see daily. If one woman is particularly pretty, I will say something nice, but I also say nice things about women who are really kind, or caring. I let my daughters know that while I might envy the looks of some women, I also envy people who never seem to lose their temper, who are always smiling, and some who have talents that I just don't.

I think it is about balance. You have to find a balance between looks, and more important qualities!!

Answer 3

Turn off the TV - go take a walk, smile at people and be happy.

The videos and TV people you see are not real people - they are retouched and made to look much better than they look in real life - if you ask them they all think they are ugly or have tons of flaws.

Personally, I am fully tired of seeing all these singers on TV bumping and grinding all over each other - get a life

You can do something useful in your life - these people are not an example you should wish to follow.

Education is the only way to personal freedom.

Answer 4

how you feel on the inside.