my friend has been getting all the typical symtoms of being pregnant she has morning sickness terrible stomach cramps and is 1 weel late for her period she insists that hs einsnt pregnant because she hasnt had sex but i find that really hard to believe she is really pretty and lots of lads fancy her i am really worried about if you was in my position what would you do ?
2006-11-28 04:01:43 · 18 answers · asked by Bradiie Babes--Ox 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i no what my mate is like she love lads i no she has done other things with a lad not going into any details so i dont see why she wunt have had sex
2006-11-28 04:13:53 · update #1
Its quite possible that shes not pregnant, but if its really bothering you tell one of your teachers at school that your close to that your worried about her and that you don't want to ruin your relationship with your friend then let the school handle it. That way it looks like one of her teachers noticed something and then they can go from there. Just ask them not to involve you. Then if she is sick or pregnant her parents are informed and they can get her medical attention that she needs. Ultimately your friend will be safe and so will your friendship. Good Luck..Hope this helps you.
~Jayson
2006-11-28 04:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bucs_Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Have read your posting carefully, yes! this situation is without doubte very tricky on many different levels. Your clearly a good friend and you care for her well being. If your friend refuses to come clean it might be because she's so scared of the trueth thats she's still in denial (you know I'm fine! and everything is fine!! yah!! right).
The problem is that if she is pregnant, and from everything you've said it does sound like she is. Then time is not on her side, in other words the clock is ticking and the long she leaves the situation a) the more difficult it will be for her to denie the pregnancy as it will start to show eventually (in the physical sense of showing i.e. enlarged stomach,etc) b) Obviously there is a limited amount of time if she decides she doesnt want to keep the baby i.e. termination.
**Perhaps your friend wont talk about whats happened because she feels some degree of shame. That the pregnancy was not planned i.e. an accident.
**Of course she might have become preganant from a one night stand and so that might be the cause of feeling bad about the situation. Doesnt want people to get a bad impression of her i.e. sleeps around alot (even if its totally untrue).
**You need to talk the situation over with someone close to you and her (preferably), someone to you can trust and who will keep this information about the pregnancy completely confidential. I'm sure there are organisations that can offer better confidential advise on pregancy than I can.
**Your friend needs to face reality but sadly you cannot force her to do so, but remember she's probably feeling extremely daunted by the whole situation. Given the situation your friend needs your support & care more than ever before, needs you to stand by her whatever she decides.
**Your friend will have to make a profound choice sooner or later, and that is does she keep the child or decide to terminate the pregnancy. Either way it a HUGH!! decision for anyone let alone a very young woman (girl).
Hope that helps? IR
2006-11-28 04:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't not believe her just because she is pretty! Just because lots of boys fancy her doesn't mean she is doing anything about it, it is good that you care though. If she talks to you about what she gets up to with boys then i think she would tell you if she had had sex. There is also the possibility that she is lying or exaggerating about her activities as a lot of kids your age do to fit in. If she says she hasn't had sex you should trust her.
Being one week late at 13 doesn't mean she is definitely pregnant, your periods are normally pretty irregular at 13. The stomach cramps could be because her period is late. Try to encourage her to go to see her doctor, there may be another reason why she is feeling sick.
If you are really worried and she wont see her doctor you should tell her mum that you are worried about her being sick or at least confide in your mum, i always find that it helps to talk things through with my mum. You should definitely tell someone though, if she really is pregnant she is going to need help. I'm sure you will be there to support her but she needs to see a doctor and shes probably worried that she is pregnant, but hoping it will go away. Shes probably scared.
2006-11-28 04:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her period is only one week late it doesn't mean that she's pregnant. She's very young and sometimes hormones controlling your periods can play some cruel tricks.
If she insists that she hasn't had sex make sure that she understands that a girl doesn't need to have full sex to become pregnant.
If you can get to agree she might find it easier talking to an older person outside of her family such as one of her school teachers or a friends mother or even a nurse at school if you have one.
2006-11-28 06:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by 2_right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK ITs U... but anyway, why is she doing that at 13? havin SEX? where are her parents? she needs to see a doctor an well, take it from there, if i were her parents i would let her have the baby and go through all the PAIN so she would never have sex again, or till she grows up... i wont let her have an abortion cause its wrong anyway! u need to tell her parents or guardians... whoever she lives with... or if she wants to have sex at that age, use a freakin condom!!! if she knows what that is!!! shes practically a baby
2006-11-28 04:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Unless she confides in you that she IS pregnant, then you need to tell her parents immediately.
But if she says she hasn't had sex, then you have to respect that answer until you know differently. NEVER assume because a girl is pretty and attracts boys , that she had sex. How could you think that? Not very nice and you are supposed to be her friend?
You are BOTH just kids.
2006-11-28 04:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're really certain, tell her the score: this problem is not just going to go away. Tell her you will help in whatever way she can (going to the Health Centre / Doctor / Teacher / Family) but she has to get her head together & face it.
Failing that, tell your mum.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 04:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is getting stomach cramps with being late or she may have a bug.Try & get her to go to the doctors or a clinic.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 04:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give her advice when is ready & has any questions about her body complains. You can get an OTC (over-the-counter) pregnancy test when she is ready to do so. You're doing the right thing by supporting her & being her friend. Is there any adult you both trust, who could talk to her about her symptoms?!
2006-11-28 16:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly, silly girl having sex at 13. Ask your parents to have a chat with her parents or see the school councelor
2006-11-28 04:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by patti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋