I'm contemplating the idea
2006-11-28 03:59:09 · 54 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Terrible idea. You cannot fix your marriage by adding more pain to it.
2006-11-28 05:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Think about how you felt when you found out about him cheating on you. Not good, was it? Why do you think doing the same will make things any better. Chances are, it will make things worse, because then you'll start to feel guilty.
It's not worth the aggrevation. Either break up with the guy or work things out. Why add to the problems in the relationship that already exist. It doesn't make sense.
2006-11-28 04:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by tipper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im contemplating the same Idea
2006-11-28 04:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you first, or doesn't give you any attention at all... Go for it! You'll feel better, I sure did. My first husband cheated on me, then stopped showing me any kind of sexual contact, so I went somewhere else to get what I wanted. Now I married a second time to someone who gives it to me like Robinhood gave to the poor! It's a good thing! Cheating changed my life and his. He knows how to respect a woman's wishes and I get loving every day of the week!
2006-11-28 04:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by ruthie_richardson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman feels that getting back at a cheating husband is to cheat on him, then who am I too judge. Do what makes you feel better. I say if you do, he deserves it anyway. They say two wrongs don't make a right, but those people who said it wasn't the one that was cheated on. And if that is you in the picture...WHAT THE HELL WAS HE THINKING? I say do what you have to do to teach him a lesson. Eye for an Eye.
2006-11-28 04:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by DJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're better than him always always remember that. He doesn't even come close. And in the end if you cheat than really no ones right. Either fix the issues seek some therapy or get out. It's just gonna turn into a vicious cycle that nobody will win.
2006-11-28 04:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by saharj007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the best way to do things, but if it was very long time ago, like 2-3 years ago that he did this, it's best to let it go, but recently, It would be a very hard issue. I know you feel like this is the best alternative and it is the real painful way, but are you sure you want to through this in his face? Its a painful act and hard lesson, but it will hurt you both even more. If he's constanly doing this you can play with the idea and tell him "How would you like it if I went and did ....." I'm sure he would not like it, but you know how things are! So, if its something your playing with be careful not to regret it or get burned! I've done it and we ended. So, Its would be real hard.
2006-11-28 04:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by deadgrl6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you going to gain if you do this? The satisfaction of hurting him as bad as he hurts you. Sorry if this is rough but if he's already cheated on you; he might not be as upset as you think.
If I were in your shoes there would be no room for explanation. I don't care how much I love the man, one who cheats cannot be trusted to remain faithful...no matter how sincere the apology.
I'd move on... there's a better man out there for you honey; you deserve him.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
2006-11-28 04:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it's wrong to use someone for sex to get even with someone else for cheating on you.
Take a step back and stop thinking about your own little self and think about the consequences your actions will have on the innocent person you sleep with, and the issues you will create there, when you're finished with him.
Grow up.
2006-11-28 04:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know it's wrong but I can understand where you are coming from as far as "getting even" goes.
If I knew for a fact that my wife cheated on me I would nail as many of her friends as possible, even her sister.
I dont believe in just getting even, if you do me wrong I will return the favor but take it to the next level.
2006-11-28 04:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's no way to act if you plan on keeping the relationship going. I wouldn't blame you if you couldn't deal with someone cheating and wanted to end the relationship. I do think, however, that cheating yourself in retaliation is just worsening things, and is not healthy at all to be doing if you care about keeping your relationship going. If you can't deal with the cheating, it would be far better to just break it off, I would imagine.
~Kyle
2006-11-28 04:01:54 · answer #11 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋