I care about this man but it is hard living with him because he is sloppy and controlling and takes me for granted (his words) he has had women in his life cheat on him before and he must think I am like them but I am not. I promised him that I would give us at least one year and also be there until he has had his surgery and is able to go back to work....I have a caretaker/caregiver personality and I always want to help those "in need". But now I am the one in need......
2006-11-28 03:38:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Things change sometimes.
Feelings change sometimes.
Explain what and why to him as clearly, honestly, and gently as you can.
After he has his surgery maybe bring food and make sure he is ok anyway. Maybe stop in a couple times a week to make sure he has food and is comfy and ok.
Put your own needs first though, always.
Ok to temporarily put somebody elses first for awhile if they are sick or really need you, not for too long though. At least not constantly.
2006-11-28 03:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you're sorry you can't fulfill your promise. It was harder than you thought it would be, and you want to move out on your own again. This could be a relationship breaker, so be prepared for that.
I hope he already recovered from his surgery, and he's doing well. Walking out on someone who needs that kind of help is a little different. Good luck.
2006-11-28 03:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's no longer probable what u choose from a guy, sounds as though he needs interest, and likes to sleep each and all the time. what u see is what your going to get if u marry him. if he tells u to close up there is not any way u may even seek advice from this guy in any respect. u will ought to separate the assetts u share at an identical time and basically flow on even regardless of if it quite is perplexing. being on my own and happy is larger than residing with him and being unhappy. wager u ought to are transforming into to nicely known him extra desirable in the past u desperate to share issues.
2016-12-14 08:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what's best for you. You can't and shouldn't live your life for him or anyone else. If he's not a good match for you, then move on. It doesn't sound like y'all are a good fit romantically and you gave it plenty of time.
Breakups are tough, but that's part of life and relationships. No one should feel stuck or trapped with someone they aren't completely crazy about. You both deserve to be with someone who will totally dig you, and whom you totally dig in return.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 03:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that it's not working out and you decided to leave before the year is up. If you are paying part of the bills while he is off work, then I would offer to still pay your part of the bills.
2006-11-28 03:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want out then get out! You have no obligations to this man. If he isn't the one for you find another, why be so unhappy? You deserve better.
2006-11-28 03:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him your leaving because he doesn't clean up after his self and he is taking you for granted.
2006-11-28 03:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set him up.. have some chick give him roses or something and you pretend to get really jealous and accuse him of cheating on you then throw his butt out!
2006-11-28 03:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by stinkyhotdogs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him a chance, talk to him.
2006-11-28 03:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋